Anorexia/Eating Disorders/bulimia/anorexia

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Expert: Reverend Abbott - 11/8/2007


Question
My friend suffers from anorexia and bulimia. I want to know what I can do, say, or know that will help her in recovery. Anything at all would be helpful. Thanks.

Answer
The best you can do is stand by her when it's really frustrating and difficult to do so. One thing we are painfully used to is people starting out there for us, but giving up when it seems to take too long.

Anorexia is forever.  Even after we start eating and appear to be perfectly healthy and normal, that deeper causation is always there.  It's the number one most fatal of all psychological disorders.  It often recurs.

Find out all you can about the disease(s), make no judgements, offer no advice (when it comes to the eating disorder anyway) - but be a good listener.  Just BE there.

It sounds like you're a very, very good friend. God bless you for that.

Take a look at my site - it might help
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Expertise

I have lived it and survived it. I know every excuse, reason, thought, feeling and rationalization - and I'm going to be very honest in my advice.

Experience

I've lost (& gained)HUNDREDS of lbs over a lifetime, more than 30 years of "professional dieting". Presently a counselor for sufferers of eating disorders, a nutritional advisor and spiritual counselor (Reverend,doctor); I've been on every diet there is and used the most bizarre weight loss products you can imagine. I am FORMERLY obese, anorexic (several times), bulimic MOST of the time - and maintaining size 4, with no gimmicks, devices, programs, pills or supplements.

I currently investigate the diet industry on behalf of consumers who do not need to be ripped off while struggling to be healthy. I WILL expose them all and I WON'T be intimidated, bullied or bought. My advice is for cost-free options. I have nothing whatsoever to gain from my recommendation(s). I make no money from my website and I sell, promote, endorse NO diet/health products, programs or devices. You'll also never see me on the receiving end of a hidden camera report...but you can be assured, I won't quit until I've exposed those who are out to take advantage of you.

It's a matter of choices. We need to stop complicating things.


Degrees & Certifications:
I'm an ordained minister (Reverend, doctor) spiritual/living/behavior counselor.

I have a medical education and management background (with college). Through early 90's (until retirement) Who's Who Of American Women; Who's Who On the East Coast; Who's Who Among Emerging American Leaders; Who's Who Of Intellectuals - all for "outstanding performance in (my) field".



Organizations
While active (through the 1980's), included in Who's Who Of American Women; Who's Who On the East Coast; Who's Who Among Emerging American Leaders; Who's Who Of Intellectuals - all for "outstanding performance in (my) field".



Education/Credentials
Ordained Minister; phlebotomist; medical information researcher for court cases

Awards and Honors
Doctorate of Divinity

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