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Hey there. I have been having anxiety since I've started having sex. I lost my virginity at 21 and I remember having the worse anxiety that maybe I was pregnant or caught a STD even when the sex was protected. It got so bad that I would Google tons or things pertaining to the topic. It left me many sleepless nights. I got over the anxiety by taking numerous pregnancy and STD testing even when I yield negatives. Well here I am at 23 years old and the same thing is happening. After I lost my virginity I decided to go celibate until I am sure I can deal with sex. That didn't last long because recently I met a guy who is now my ex boyfriend and we began to have sexual intercourse with protection. Once we broke up, that is when anxiety kicked in full force that I was pregnant or got a STD. I began to buy bulks if pregnancy test and everything was negative. I suddenly got my cycle and I was calm but for a short period of time. I then began to think I have caught HIV or STD. I haven't did any testing yet because I am afraid that something bad will come up. The worse of this all is that I've met someone new and all I can think about is infecting him or testing positive with something and it will ruin everything. I have a hard trusting that condoms really do work and trusting the guys I've dated in the past. I recently talked with my ex and he told me the reason he broke up with me was because my anxiety and that he is free of any STDS and that condoms work. It made me feel better since I heard it from him but have a hard time at believing it. How do I cope with my anxiety after sex??

Hi Celeste,
When you suffer from anxiety attacks no amount of logical reasoning is going to help you, because anxiety attack are caused not by your mind or environmental events, but by an internal illness that causes you to overproduce stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol.

The most frequent illness that is responsible for these symptoms is hypoglycemia (
This can be treated by going on a hypoglycemic diet (

Please read:
Beating Anxiety and Phobias  

I hope I have been of some help.

Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych) Post Grad Dip Clin Nutrition
Editor of the Hypoglycemic Association of Australia
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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist


I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition. I am also the author of “GETTING OFF THE HOOK” which deals with the nutritional and psychological treatment of personality disorders. It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search. I am interested in the relationship between nutrition and behaviour, and as a Probation ans Parole Officer facilitated groups for offenders, many of whom were alcoholics and drug addicts, sex offenders or compulsive gamblers, as well as the whole gamut of “personality disorders”. I am also the ex-editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia Newsletter, a quarterly publication dealing with hypoglycemia and related health problems. Its web site, together with a shortened course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited at:


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The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia

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BA(Psych) Sydney University, Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr (International Academy of Nutrition)

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