Expert: Le Anne Clausen - 12/11/2008

Question
QUESTION: hi
im a rumanian guy and i found a arabic girl from dubai
i wasnt know nothing abouth muslim until i meet her
all was good 4 months when she said she have to marry with her cousen
my world fall down :'(
she come back and said will find a way to make her father accept me
what i should do
i love her like my eyes
i cant go sai to her father I LOVE U GIRL??
how to doooo?
please say me the way its posible or not imposible ?
thank you

ANSWER: Greetings Gavriliuc, and thanks for your question.  If your girl says she wants to find a way to help her father accept you, then there is a chance you can make this work.  You will have to do a very good job of proving to her father that you are responsible, able to provide for his daughter, respect his religion and culture, and that you will allow her to keep her religion, and to raise the children with with Muslim religion.  

You can help prove this by reading up as much as possible about Islam and Arabic culture, by asking questions, by visiting the mosque, by spending a lot of time with her father in order to learn from him.  Always be honest and respectful with him. If your parents are alive, it is also helpful for them to send a letter introducing you and your family and their respect for his family. This is your best chance at success in this relationship.

Good luck to you, and I hope this helps!

peace,

Le Anne



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QUESTION: dear Le Anne
can u say me how to spend my time with him????:S
i cant go his home ..he dont know me .. he will look at me?
i hope next month i will go dubai
i find today a friend who have his bother in dubai
so tomorrow i will know if i go or no
im thinking to follow him and see where he work
and dono try work same place with him
if u know another way more easyer please tell me

Answer
Greetings Gavriliuc, thanks for your response.  I wouldn't follow him; instead, I would ask advice from your girlfriend how to arrange an introduction.  It is better that this be arranged in advance, and that other adult friends who can affirm the relationship be present.  But certainly, don't do anything without consulting your girlfriend how to do so first--otherwise, this may go badly.  

Good luck to you, and I hope this helps!

peace,

Le Anne