Expert: Jamshaid Zubairee - 12/15/2009

Question
Salam! I am in love with a yemeni man and I am american. I met him being a single mother of my newborn at the time. We quickly fell in love within about two months.... it seems he is my perfect fit... the one allah made just for me. Once we had both told each other how we loved one another he told me that he could not keep something he had been hiding from me any longer. He was recently married and his bride of 6 months was going to have a baby soon. He said he did not love her no matter how hard he tried and he used to cry for her because she loves him so much. I had to make a choice... one that I think about everyday. Could I disregard my love for this man due to his vows to another woman that he was forced to make by his family? Or should I accept it as a part of his life that I should love as well as I love him? He accepts that I am not a virgin... and loves my daughter as his own. I am completely devoted to him as he says I am his only love.. Even if I am not yet his wife. Is this real on his part.. Or could I just be a companion away from home to keep him from getting lonesome?  Can an arabic man respect a woman who was not raised with the modesty and purity of a born muslimah? A woman who has a child like me? Am I fighting a losing battle? I pray... enchallah he is really MY love!

Answer
Wa salam Sister!
It is better to marry this person instead of having such relationship. What about your previous marriage???? Your daughter was from your marriage or some ............?????
If want to listen truth then I would like to say that I don't think that he really loves you. He is just trying to find a companion because he is away from home. But still I will advise you to trust him and have a chance.
Good Luck
Allah Hafiz