Expert: Jamshaid Zubairee - 1/18/2010

Question
QUESTION: hello

my name is agata im chrisitan and i was living with muslim man from pakistan but now w e are not togheter one year,he give me divore he told me 3 tiems divore divor divore in his langues
but i still love him i cant forget him and it is possible is we cant marry again or if we cant live juste like the wihtout marry?


ANSWER: No sister you can't marry him now. You should marry someone else. If you get divorce from your next husband then you can marry this Pakistani guy again, but NOT now.
If you still have problem feel free to contact me again.

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QUESTION: but i want to tell you thet the divore was fomr internet i was in slovakia and he was in denmark i went there for same days and after he send me mail dont comme back im give you divore not it was in his langu.and didt now what is means the tafter one month i call hin and i told thim the i want to be wiht him again and he told me no we are divore
say what!!!! i didnot now the becouse he send me juste mail you this the we can be divore?if i dint know and i dont accpet the divore

ANSWER: Divorce happens whether it is in your mother language or any other language and whether it is by phone call or by email or any other medium. You don't need to have to agree with him on this issue or knowledge of divorce. Now you are divorced sister because he said you three time not once.
Sorry this is truth, I know you are hurt by this matter but we can't change it.
Now you should marry someone else. If you get divorce from your next husband then you can marry this Pakistani guy again, but NOT now.
Good Luck

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QUESTION: and if i will marry wiht sameone then after how long we can do divore?
and  have to live wiht him in one house and sleep wiht him? people in islam do thet?and after you think the pakistani man an will accept me if i was marry?

Answer
Sister you can get divorce even after ONE day. This is NOT allowed in Islam but you are NON-Muslim so you can do this. You will have to live with that man and have sleep with him and develop husband and wife relationship at least ONCE. you can marry any Muslim you want but KEEP IN MIND THAT such marriages PLANNED for divorce are NOT allowed in Islam.
As for as the Pakistani man is concerned that whether he will accept you or not (after this procedure), you should ask this question from him NOT from me.
Good Luck
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