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Question Hi - I do so hope that you do not mind my emails. I wanted to give you an update. Well - I found out that he was at that specific detox center -- I called and they put me through to him because I was so nice! He got on the phone and told me that he was checking out today at Noon (that is one week of being there by the way and after missing our date). He said he'd call me back later.
So I guess he will be getting his messages of "where are you" on his voicemail as well as his soon to get "have I lost you" e-mails....
My question - is - what do I pose to him at this point?
Your points of not seeing him for so long are valid - but with my positioning in being "married" it does not afford me th eluxury of seeing him freewill.
I am so confused and feel so lost about what happened or lack of what happened and I really don't know if one week will cut it for whatever he is going through. Also, he can't just expect to click his fingers and have me there.
Can you help me best move forward at this time - with him and my life?
Thanks, Trish
Answer The only thing to do here is just listen. Let him tell his story. Until you get more information you have't much to go on really.
Most of my recommendations have been made on this situation. I can't think of anything you could tell me at this point that would lead me to say OK drop everything and marry this guy. You have VERY scanty information and without some ability to relate to this guy for a longer term on some regular, more even-keeled grounds, you're not likely to get much more.
You have to take a breath and look at this as a longer term problem, and figure out how (or even if) you can design a way to have a relationship with this guy you can manage for awhile.
