Expert: Bill Hajdu - 5/25/2008

Question
I, born on 1st march, 1973, have been pursuing this girl born on 28th august, 1984. We get along well only when she is around, otherwise she is aloof and bitter. I need to know what is the future and advice to get this girl, if any.

Answer
Hi,

You were born during the year of the Water Ox, month of the Wood Tiger and day of the Fire Monkey.

She was born during the year of the Wood Rat, month of the Water Rooster and day of the Wood Horse.

From a Chinese astrology perspective this match has a 59% favorable compatibility rating which is good but not great.

Actually your animal signs alone are only 43% favorable, so there are likely to be clashes of will as well as good times. Ox is a great match for Rooster, Tiger for Horse and Monkey for Rat. The problem is these are cross matches, not their year, month and day counterparts, which are much less favorable.

A second issue is she has a lot of Metal in her chart. Don't expect her to change from being cold and aloof for the duration of your relationship. That's just how she is.

Third, you two do not have much Earth in your charts. You may not be able to successfully deal with the routine matters that constantly need attention to keep a relationship going smoothly.

Having said this, she is probably a charming, well groomed, perhaps even flamboyant personality. This relationship is thus worth pursuing---with your eyes and mind open.

As to what you can do, here are three things. She probably needs mental stimulation, so make sure you satisfy her need. She might like to argue and be something of a nag. This is likely to irritate you, and you will have to do your best to deal with it--- she's not to change for you. Finally, she probably likes her independence. You are going to have to let her have a lot of freedom if you want to keep her.

When this match is good, it can be extremely good. Just keep in mind there will be a lot of bumps in the road, and the whole thing could come to a unsatisfying end. You will both have to decide whether the good times are worth the occasional difficulties.

Thank u for your question.

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