Expert: Shanda - 7/30/2008

Question
Hi, advice on if I (2 jul 80) should try to work things out with my partner Daniel (11 Feb 83). We have been together for over a year. I have been away frequently for training for a job, now its finished. We had an argument which was similar to one we had once before. Daniel left and has asked for space. Should he choose to come back, are we capable of working out?

Answer
Dear Arica,

Thank you for coming to me with your question.

Since I do not have complete birth data (date, place, and time of birth) for either of you, I will only be able to speak in generalities about your situation.  I drew up what is called a horary chart (a chart of the moment that is used to answer specific questions posed by the person coming to see the astrologer), and I also compared the positions of your planets to his.

The horary chart indicates that he will return soon, probably within a week's time.  It was not clear from this chart whether the two of you will reconcile, but due to the commitment that both of you have made over the course of the relationship, staying together will at least be considered.

A comparison of your birth planets reveals that you two do have a few areas of concern that will need to be worked on, should you choose to stay together.  It appears that his unpredictability distresses you, and he is somehow not showing that he is fully committed to you.  There is a part of him that is just this way, and regardless of who he is with, he will need a certain amount of freedom.  With you specifically, though, it could partly be due to his not being quite certain that you are the kind of mate that he would want to settle down with, for the long haul...maybe you don't quite fit the image that he's always imagined his mate would be like.  You two probably have some philosophical differences that create tension in the relationship as well.  I see a lot of (sexual) passion here, but also a strong tendency to fight; the arguments somehow undermine his self-esteeem, and make him feel inadequate or "not good enough" in some way.  The crux of the problem seems to be that the two of you perhaps don't really want the same things out of life, not deep down...and yet, out of a sense of responsibility, you stay together.

As I said, it is not clear whether you two will reconcile, but if you do get back together and ignore the problems that are a part of the relationship, your reunion may be short-lived.

I hope this is helpful information for you.

Best wishes,
Shanda