Expert: Bill Hajdu - 8/20/2008

Question
i was wondering how best to strengthen the weakness between a male born on october 8, 1985 3:37am and a female born on may 3rd 1987 based on the elements chart.

Answer
Hi Mike,

The male is an Ox with strong Metal, and the female is a Rabbit with strong Fire.

The male may have to work to control his stubbornness and the female her temper. The male is likely to be much more thick skinned. In fact a Rabbit with a hot temper could be difficult to deal with as their Fire may lead them to start things their gentle Rabbit has no desire to finish. They thus can be the type who like to give "it" (hassle, a piece of their mind) but can not take it when someone gives "it" to them.

You both have a lot of Wood, which means you have the ability and desire to make compromises. Appeal to this strength to get you through tough times. Finally, since the female is the gentle Rabbit, it really is up to the male Ox, to maintain harmony.

One more thing, the Rabbit is an emotional type and needs support, while the Ox is noted for not being particularly interested in giving it. Again, the burden falls on the male, as the Rabbit will wilt if she doesn't get it.

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Thank you for your question.