Expert: Bill Hajdu - 11/17/2009

Question
My son was born in Thailand on May 16,1998 around noon time. I recalled that my father told me that his Chinese Horoscope is lack of gold element, so we give name his name with some gold meaning. My dad just passed away two yrs ago and I don't have anyone to ask about this now. My son is now having some personality problem. Even though he is very smart and perfectionist but he is extremely anxious/anxiety. He is very immature and clinging to his mom. He is so afraid of his school work, etc. Can you explain to me what is the meaning of lack of gold element in chinese astrology? anything we can do to help him?

Answer
Gui,

The lack of Metal in a chart indicates the likelihood of a lack of fighting spirit and determination. This makes it difficult to finish what he starts, especially those that take a long time and require perseverance to complete.

You can't really change who or what a person is, but there are two approaches you can take.

From the traditional Chinese, you could consult a traditional Chinese doctor who might be able to make dietary and herbal recommendations. You also want to have his meridians checked to see if there are any blockages due to his element imbalance. Make sure the doctor comes highly recommended; doctor quality varies greatly. Also, you don't want to overdo it, but it wouldn't hurt to encourage him to wear one or two pieces of Metal jewelry.

From a western psychological perspective, you want to make sure you give him tasks he can do well. Then praise him. From what you wrote it sounds like you need to help him become confident. As far as being immature and clinging to mom, the recommendation is similar. Give him small tasks that help develop responsibility. Just make sure they are things at which he can be successful, or your efforts could have the opposite effect.

If you would like a detailed analysis of your son, there are several reports you can order at my web site, www.onlinechineseastrology.com for a modest cost.

Thank you for your question.