Expert: Subbarao M V - 8/18/2009

Question
Hi sir,
This was my earlier query .
------------------------------------------------------------------Hello sir,
My DOB - 08/08/1983 9:27 A.M,chennai.My hubby's DOB - 13/10/1979 03:53 A.M.,madurai
We end up in conflicts even for petty issues ,any general talk raises big issues in house .So far in 3 +yrs of married life,confrontations are more than normal conversations.So is my relation with his mom too.I am afraid will my life with him be ever understanding?
Many strologers who matched our charts said our compatability is fine ,but it doesnt seem so .We are comitted to each other ,very duty bound as life -partners ,have a baby too,still small talks ignite big issues.
Kindly help me.

Answer
LAKSHMI...in your birth chart Ketu period is going on from Nov 2006.you belong to Pushyami.
In your husband chart and also in your chart, Mars is not favourable.  So the disputes will arise. Particulary in your chart, the severity is more.
You please worship Sidhi Vinayaka/ Muruga everyday more particularly on wednesdays/ Chaturdhi /Shasthi) avoid disputes. Your husband  is a good gentleman. But Mars is not favourable in him.So he will be angry, and sensitive  like you.  Advise him to wear a ring of Red coral.I advise you too to wear a chain made of red corals.(Pavvalam mala).
I wish you both a very happy married life.
Please visit Muruga temples, frequently
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Follow-up
(1) For my hubby ,should the ring be made on gold /silver metal,in which finger it is to be worn?
(2) For me already my thiru-mangalya has pavalam beads,will this suffice?
(3) My present state of mind is full of fear,visualising happy days with my hubby in my future ,able to converse with him freely ,discuss without fear of disputes.Will this ever realise ?Under the surface both of us are full of love for each other ,but on the surface only explosions.Now that we have a baby ,i want a very happy future else it would affect my daughter too.

Accept my sincere apology if i am bothering you.My restlesness has driven me to you,sir.  

Answer
Lakshmi ...
1)  Red coral, 3 carrots,in right-hand ring fingure to be worn on Tues days and in the stars like
Mrigasira,chitta,Dhanishta...
2) thiru --mangalya pavalam beads are sufficient.
3)Dont be fearfull.Be confident. He is your Husband.You are 50% in him ( ardha Nareeswara).
Receive him with smiling, easy and peaceful appearance.Serve him devotedly. Bear him.Even if he is at wrong side, check him. You turn him to your fold.Its all possible.
Pray to Gouri, Radha krishna, Sidhi Vinayaka & Muruga at your convenience. Take him to any temples, or to his choicest places.
Have Control in your speech.
You will lead a happy life.