Expert: Bill Hajdu - 2/25/2010

Question
Dear Mr. Hajdu,

My name is Sandra and I have had a up and down relationship with my mother . I love her, but she is controlling and manipulative and she puts me down. I get along with her, but it is difficult sometimes. I was curious what Chinese Astrology says about the relationship. I understand that a full analysis would be long, but a brief summary would be appreciated. The information you require is below:

myself: October 4, 1957 at 10:29 PM EST in Tampa, Florida
my mother: March 22, 1938 at 1:20 PM CST in Belleville, Illinois

Answer
Hi Sandra,

You were born during the year of the Fire Rooster, month of the Earth Rooster, day of the Metal Pig and hour of the Earth Pig.

She was born during the year of the Earth Tiger, month of the Wood Rabbit, day of the Water Ox and hour of the Earth Sheep.

From a Chinese Astrology perspective, this match has a 51% favorable compatibility rating.This 50-50, good-bad, rating is just about what can be expected from a relationship that is up and down.

I can see why there are clashes when it comes to control. Your mother's Tiger sign is very controlling. And, your double Rooster sign also values being in control.

You both have two signs from the "gentle", Rabbit, Sheep, Pig compatibility group. This makes you both vulnerable. You both have probably experienced plenty of "you hurt the one you love the most" moments.

Rooster and Tiger are always going to experience some friction; that's just how it is. All you both can do is try to be empathetic and make an extra effort to compromise.

If you would like a more detailed analysis, you can order one at my web site, www.onlinechineseastrology.com for a modest charge. I think you will find the (love) relationship compatibility report will apply as well to you and your mother as to a lover.

You also may want to take a look at Theodora Lau's Handbook of Chinese Horoscopes to get a detailed description of all the signs I noted above.

Good luck and thank u for your question.