Expert: Bill Hajdu - 4/23/2010

Question
QUESTION: Bill,

I got out of a relationship with a guy a few months back, but I still care and love him.

I've met a few other prospects recently who I find extremely compatible, but don't know who will fit best with my DOB, being December 2, 1984, based on your knowledge of astrology.

The other guys are:
#1: October 30, 1980
#2: July 28, 1985
#3: December 21, 1988
and finally
Ex-boyfriend: June 12, 1980.

I'm confused, and I want to pursue a long-term and extremely compatible relationship. Who is best fit?

Sincerely,
Ann

ANSWER: Hi Ann,

Wow! You certainly have a happy choice to make.

Your compatibility with #1 is 93% (outstanding), #2 90% (also outstanding), #3 83% (excellent).

Your compatibility with your ex is 43%. From a Chinese Astrology perspective, you are much better off with choosing one of the new guys rather than getting back with your ex-boyfriend.

I can understand why it might be hard to choose among the three. They all have lots of positives.

If you would like me to analyze one of these relationships, please send me a follow up question.

If you would like to learn more about relationships, I highly recommend Shelly Wu's Chinese Sexual Astrology. Also, please visit my web site, www.onlinechineseastrology.com. If you would like a detailed analysis of a relationship, you can order one at the site for a modest charge.

Thank u for your question.

---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: WOW. Interestingly, I'd like to confirm your analysis and say that of the 3, I am the most attracted to #1 because he's normally not the type of guy I see myself attracted to, he's eccentric. I am usually more into the clean-cut appearance of #2.

So, for that reason, I'd like for you to analyze my possible relationship with #1.
What makes us compatible at an outstanding level from a Chinese astrological analysis?
What are some possible hurdles that me and #1 could face if we were to pursue a relationship?
I have a tendency to become bored easily with relationships. If the relationship becomes stagnant, or somehow we weren't able to set aside time to build the relationship, what should each one of us do to keep the flame alive?
Also, I've been hurt and bruised badly in my past male relationships (my father and past boyfriends), but I want to be able to fully fall in love again without being afraid to get hurt, so how would I be able to fully win #1's heart?

Thank you so much Bill for your analysis, it truly means a lot to me, and I absolutely appreciate your help and feedback.

Regards,
Ann

Answer
Hi,

You were born during the year of the Wood Rat, month of the Wood Pig, and day of the Metal Horse. Number one was born during the year of the Metal Monkey, month of the Fire Dog and day of the Earth Tiger.

You have asked a wise question!

Unfortunately #1 is the one that requires the most "maintenance." The other two, an Ox and a Dragon are more independent. Your Monkey is probably very good at making you (and most people for that matter) happy. The problem is the Monkey is not good at making himself happy. You're going to have to put a lot of work into making that happen. Then, so frustrating, in the blink of an eye it's over. He's again lost his confidence, sense of joy de vivre, or whatever, and you have to start all over working to make him happy. Also, his elements are out of balance. He has no Water in his chart and an excess of Earth. The lack of Water could make him difficult when it comes to communications, and talking it out is so important to healthy relationships. Also, he has an internal conflict, Monkey-Tiger. These are opposite signs and in conflict. That means he could be very unpredictable, acting like the first one moment and the second just a bit later. And, you'll never know which one is going to show up at the moment. This conflict can also contribute to his Monkey insecurity and self doubts.

You're probably attracted to #1 thanks to that legendary Monkey charm and ability to make us laugh/be happy. You'll have to decide if that's worth all the effort you're going to have to put into this relationship. In spite of the great compatibility, I have to tell you, especially given your concerns about being hurt again, this relationship is a risk.

If you'd like, I could comment on one more guy. With all the things I've got going, I usually only give one follow up. I sense your concern and will give u another if you want more detail on one of the other two guys. And, of course, you can always order an extensive report at my web site, www.onlinechineseastrology.com, for a modest charge.

Thank u for your question.