Expert: Bill Hajdu - 4/10/2010

Question
Hi bill,
I was wondering what the strengths and weaknesses are in a relationship between a male October 8th 1985 3:37am and female born on may 3rd 1987 2:08am

thank you bill

Answer
Hi David,

You were born during the year of the Wood Ox, month of the Wood Rooster, day of the Water Horse and hour of the Water Tiger.

She was born during the year of the Fire Rabbit, month of the Wood Snake, day of the Water Rat and hour of the Metal Ox.

From a Chinese Astrology perspective this match has a 59% favorable, compatibility rating, which is good but not great. It has a decent chance of lasting and bringing you the happiness you seek.

Strengths: Lots of strong signs, and the overall element balance is complementary. You cover each others' weaknesses. There is lots of Wood in your two charts. It is the element associated with making compromises and being good hearted---a real plus in relationships.

Weaknesses. You have two signs from the Tiger-Horse-Dog compatibility group, and she has none. That constitutes a significant part of your personality/behavior, a side she won't easily be able to satisfy or relate to. She has two cerebral signs, Snake and Rat, and you have none. You may not be able to satisfy all her intellectual needs. Most importantly you have two, disastrous, matches. Your Rooster month is the worst possible match for her Rabbit year sign, and her Rat day sign is the worst for your Horse day sign. These pairs of opposites represent lots of inherent conflict, clashes of will, and misunderstandings. This is going to be a bumpy relationship in spite of its overall positive compatibility. The one most likely to give you difficulties is the Rooster-Rabbit one. Rooster tends to like to argue and nitpick while the Rabbit absolutely hates conflict of any sort. Also, her Snake and Rat don't particularly have any patience with Rooster antics.

It is thus really important for you to read up on all these signs, especially Rooster and Rabbit. A very good book is Theodora Lau's Handbook of Chinese Horoscopes. You're going to have to keep your Rooster side in check if this relationship is to last. Also, all your signs are strong, while she is more balanced with two gentle and two strong. Her Rabbit will be repulsed if you come on too aggressive too often.

This match will probably alternate between being immensely satisfying (your Rooster-Snake month sign compatibility is outstanding for example) and a big headache. It will be up to both of you to make a lot of compromises so the good outweighs the bad overall.

If you want to learn more about relationships, I highly recommend Shelly Wu's Chinese Sexual Astrology. Also, please visit my web site, www.onlinechineseastrology.com. If you would like a detailed analysis of this relationship, you can order one at the site for a modest charge.

Thank u for your question.