Expert: LeLonni Campbell - 6/2/2010

Question
Birth info: 7/21/86 Denver, CO 2:10 am MDT

Hello LeLonni,
I'm wondering about the influence of Mars placement in a woman's chart in the choice of male partners. I have a Capricorn Mars retrograde in the 8th house. I've read that a retrograde Mars can indicate a woman might be attracted to "misfit" types. Do you agree with this? All the relationships I've have been bizarre and the men I am attracted to tend to have some dark secret that blows open during the course of the relationship(ending it). Could this be shown in an 8th house Mars or is it just the 7th house that shows something like this? I am beginning a new relationship and already there are signs that this may be happening again, but I don't know. It makes me want to cry. I would like to go into relationships more aware of what is going on so I can stop this pattern, and it seems like the 7th house doesn't show enough of the picture. Any insight you could give is much appreciated.

Thank you,
Dinah

Answer
I am glad you sent your birth info so I could look at your entire chart, I never like to say one thing will do such and such, the chart is an entity on its own and everything depends on everything else.  You have a strong Mars, even thought it is retrograde its in Capricorn, in my opinion on of the best placements for Mars as it directs its energy in a focused way.  For you the retrograde is important, not just because of Mars but because so many of your planets, six, are retrograde. This often means you are sort of out their by yourself, your not always understood, its diffuclt because your often on a totally differnt page than those you are around, you think you are beong clear but your not heard or understood.  For you this is not as bad as it could be since most of those planets have gone direct by progression, that helps alot, when you were young the problem was more severe.  When it comes to relationships I find the 8th house actually tells more than the seventh as I look at the 8th house as how you express your emotional needs how open you are with them, to yourself as well as with others.  Your 7th house has Uranus that by itself is an intrsting placement, I have it myself. As a Cancerian you want and need someone who can be thier for you, gives you emotional support, but that Uranus has you attracting those who are not their for you, a part of the karma of this placement is you need to learn to take care of yourself and understand yhour own needs before you can attract someone that will take care of you.  Add to this your Mars in a wide conjunction to Neptuen, which also makes a nice trine to your Venus and your see you are a caretake, you send out an energy that attracts those that need help, you able to "fix" people on an emotional level, often those who need fixing cannot give as well as they can receive.  So the self work will help you a lot in relationships, when I talk to clinets about this sujbect I often tell them the most important relationship is the one they ahve with themselves, as how you treat you is the energy you send out to others, once your secure within yourself you attract a differnt type of romantic intrest into your life.
Right now you have astrological indications that youc an meet someone that is a positive influence in your life, so if you are feeling a realtionship is not good for you, you may need to rethink how healthy it is.  You are ultimatlly a caretaker and you attract those who need help, whcih in and of itself is not a bad thing, but you need to ask yourself is what you want is to take care of people who may not be able to give back what you give them, ir you want more its times to look at your needs and make sure you honor them.  I htink looking into what you need on an emotional level is the key to all of this.

LeLonni

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