Expert: Bill Hajdu - 11/17/2011

Question
Hi, Bill!

I was born September 13th, 1988 at 3:02 PM (PST).
I would like some compatibility advice. I'd prefer not to date  guys who are much older than me or much younger, ideally I like to date within a few years (possibly with the guy being the older one ^^). I'd also like some insight into my past relationships, to see if I have been choosing guys who are very wrong for me astrology-wise, and what I should be on the lookout for. Thanks!!

Random info on guys in my love life past:
My first ex, born January 25, 1986, I think at 11:11 am PST? Very intense and turbulent 2 1/2 year relationship and I consider the "real" love of my life even though I ended our relationship to go off to college. Though I think he's born in the year of the Ox, he's not boring at all. Very funny, sweet, silly guy with some dark side that he keeps inside. He's the only guy I feel ever "got" me, even though we had some issues that we couldn't resolve. We don't talk often, but we're still bonded and regard each other very highly, both very happy (yet sad) when we do talk.

Second ex, born December 30, 1988 and I don't know what time. Very short five-month relationship which I ended. He bored me to death and he did not know how to LIVE! It also turned out he had mommy issues that I can not deal with. He was a child, and I want a man.

Three month fling with guy born December 16, 1988 (don;t know the time). We really clicked and enjoyed each other's company, but he had to leave for a job in another city, and I cut ties.

This is my main concern at present: Guy that I'm REALLY crazy about, born March 17th, 1987 (don't know what time). I fell head over heels with him when I met him last semester but since he graduated he is always gone somewhere in another state or city and we have never even kissed, but we email very frequently. I feel like he's exactly what I've been searching for, but I can't tell if the reason we haven't "done" anything is because of his constant traveling or because we're really not compatible.

There is also a guy in my city born December 3, 1987 (don't know the time), who likes me but I am not feeling it and am worried that it'll be a waste of both of our time. Should I give him a try?

Answer
Hi Katie,

You've managed to ask a number of questions in one. What I will do is speak to your main concern and then give you a follow up if you are satisfied with my first answer.

You were born during the year of the Earth Dragon, month of the Metal Rooster, Day of the Metal Sheep and hour of the Fire Monkey.

Your main concern was born during the year of the Fire Rabbit, month of the Water Rabbit and day of the Wood Ox.

From a Chinese Astrology perspective this match has a 43% favorable, compatibility rating, which is below average. It thus has less than a 50-50 chance of lasting and bringing you the happiness you seek.

To be honest this looks like a trap, a fatal attraction. It's not surprising you're attracted to him. His two Rabbit signs are extremely compatible with your Sheep day sign. He's probably a gentle guy and a gentleman with a lot of inner strength.

The problems come in with your Rooster-Rabbit and Dragon-Ox conflicts. Both are usually disastrous matches. Dragon people tend to get into plenty of clashes of will with those born under the Ox sign. So this relationship is likely to have more than its fair share of tense moments. Also, there's more than a slight chance he will tire of this relationship and leave it due to the Rabbit-Rooster clash. The Rabbit is very much a peacemaker, while the Rooster tends to like to stir things up and argue more than most signs. This could drive your main concern crazy over time.

You'd probably be happiest with some born during the year of the Rat, four years older or eight years younger than you; though, there are a number of other choice that could also work out well.

If you would like to learn more about Chinese Astrology, I recommend Susan Levitt's Taoist Astrology and Shelly Wu's Chinese Sexual Astrology. Also, please visit my web site, www.onlinechineseastrology.com. If you would like a detailed analysis of your relationship, you can order one at the site for a modest charge. And, if you like the web site, please “like” Online Chinese Astrology on Facebook and recommend the site to your friends.

Thank you for your question.