Expert: Bill Hajdu - 12/8/2011

Question
Hello,
and a Happy Holiday Season to you!
- born on (feb/24/72)Canada the aquarius/pisces cusp with i'm pretty sure a sagitarius rising-my ex is(Jul 24/41)Finland leo/cancer-with virgo rising/metal snake-(we have a child together-so its important)
what should our relationship seem like-any way we could get on better-or should i just walk away..
Who ideally should I marry? metal dragon cancer? monkey/pig..please advise
Thank you!

Answer
Hi K,

You were born during the year of the Water Rat, month of the Water Tiger and day of the Wood Rooster. Your ex was born during the year of the Metal Snake, month of the Wood Sheep and day of the Water Rooster.

rom a Chinese Astrology perspective this match has a 59% favorable, compatibility rating, which is good but not anything special. That number is an average and masks the fact that the element components of your signs are great together, but the animal ones are actually below average. So you are more likely to be lucky for and complement each other rather than be compatible from a personality/ease of getting along perspective.

I think this match was always "meant" to be chippy, that is, lots of arguments and clashes of will. You both have some strong signs, and your Rooster day signs point to cock fights. Rat and Snake makes an intriguing match, and your ex's year, Metal element is perfect for your year, Water element. Also, Rat and Snake can enjoy some interesting and fun moments in sharing their minds. So it's not surprising you got into this match. If this were a new relationship you were considering, I would probably say it's worth pursuing. Given that there already has been a separation, however, I'm not sure there's much hope in anything lasting going forward.

Unfortunately your first go missed the brass ring by just one year. You're absolutely correct Metal Dragon is your theoretically best match. But, Water Dragon (1952)and Wood Dragon (1964)  are also extremely good. And you're right again, Metal Pig (1971) is an excellent match for you.

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Thank you for your question.