Expert: Bill Hajdu - 7/29/2011

Question
im in a new relationship. im just worried about his actions and very sensitive feelings this past few days. sometimes he's moody and gloomy...sometimes he's very happy and sweet. he's birthday is july 9,1978 and im july 11,1987..he's 9 years older than me.. can you tell me what do i need to do or how should things go along our way so we could have a smooth relationship..and less arguments.. hoping for your reply. thanks.

Answer
Hi,

You were born during the year of the Fire Rabbit, month of the Fire Sheep and day of the Metal Rooster.

He was born during the year of the Earth Horse, month of the Earth Sheep and day of the Water Monkey.

From a Chinese Astrology perspective this match has a 62% favorable compatibility rating, which is good. Unfortunately this average hides some problems. Your elements match up great, making you lucky for each other. Your animals, however, have a less than average compatibility rating. Also, your elements are not complementary.

The last point is the one that is most important in answering your question. Putting your two charts together I see right away you lack Wood and Water. Wood is the element associated with compromise and getting along smoothly. Water is the element associated with communications, talking with your partner and working out issues. Since your relationship lacks these two elements, you two will always find it a bit of a struggle. The way to minimize these is to make an extra effort when it comes to communications and compromises. You each have to give.

One more thing, your day sign is Rooster, the sign most likely to argue, nag and nitpick. You will have to keep this tendency in check, or you could be constantly putting him in a gloomy mood. He is vulnerable to that due to his Monkey day sign.

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Thank you for your question.