Hi! My name is Tatjana. I am female, I was born on 1st of february 1980. I am going through some really rough times in a relationship with a man, Aleksandar, born on 9th of july 1985. We had good relationship full of love and understanding. He is very emotional and sometimes I felt suffocated by his emotions. We had a small fight 2 months ago and he backed up because he felt hurt and now he is so afraid he will be hurt again by me leaving him. He has some abandonment issues I didn't know before. But we talked a lot lately and I said to him I want to give us another chance especially now I know what his issues are. He asked me gently for some time to think about it all and he said he loves me still. I definitely want to make us work and I am willing to try. My question is are we compatible enough to make our relationship work?

Hi Tatjana,

I have looked at your charts and am sorry to say, from a Chinese Astrology perspective, your favorable rating is only 4%, which is very low. To be honest, it does not look like you are compatible enough to make your relationship work. You both can do a lot better.

The difficulties begin with your year signs. You were born during the year of the Sheep and he the year of the Ox. Unfortunately an Ox guy is the worst match for you. He is not likely to give you the emotional support you need. He also may be stubborn and inflexible.

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Thank you for your question.


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Chinese Astrology. I`ve done Chinese astrology for over 25 years, pimary experience Ming Shu style. I am NOT a psychic. I can't answer questions about when a particular event will occur, when/if your life will change, or what your spouse is going to be/look like. I do comment on relationships, career, personality analysis and life cycle chi, i.e., energy level and influences at each of the five stages of life. I evaluate specific relationships or can look at your love life in general. I can tell you your best career choices and whether the one you've chosen is good for you. And, I can identify the strong and weak times in your life. I've done work for Yahoo, and


I've studied Chinese astrology for over 25 years now and done many thousands of charts. My specialty is Four Pillars method, particularly as applied to evaluating relationships. I've also done Nine Star Ki and readings using Mah Jong tiles. I have now completed my first, automated Zi Wei Dou Shu (Purple Star) product. It focuses on Luck. Next year I plan on creating one or two more Purple Star projects focusing on Fate.

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