Expert: Bill Hajdu - 5/5/2005

Question
I am female (4/13/60)- married with two kids. Husband, 1/21/61. I had an affair last year with Gary with a guy I saw at my high school reunion (9/29/59).  My husband stook by me.  I ended up staying and not leaving for Gary.

However, Gary and I still miss each other and we feel we are soul mates and long for each other. I am torn, for, I put my kids happiness before my own, although I love my husband like a father.

What do you see as an outcome?  What doyou see in Gary? Please help me.

Thank you:(

Answer
Hi again Trish,

Forty percent is not a good rating, meaning that this match has significantly less than a 50-50 chance of bringing you the happiness you seek. Sixty percent is a good though not a great rating.

You have two signs from the Rat-Dragon-Monkey group and Gary has none. Thus, even though the match is 60% favorable, there is a good chance he will not be able to satisfy you in the long run as he has no signs from this group. To be honest you would be much better off with someone born during the year of the Monkey, four years older or eight years younger than you are.

Gary does seem to be a very nice guy---and sensual. You probably have good sex.

You mentioned children. Given that Gary is not a great match, you may have to conclude the best route is to make the best of what you have. Then, when the children are older, you will have to evaluate if things have gotten better. If not, you might want to be on the lookout for that Monkey.

If you would like to learn more about your signs, i highly recommend Theodora Lau's The Handbook of Chinese Horoscopes. Also, please visit my site, www.firepig.com.  While there sign up for the free (trial) subscription service. Then you can use our relationship calculator to evaluate your relationships yourself.

Thank you for your question.

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