Expert: Bill Hajdu - 12/16/2004

Question
Dear Bill, i'm a 24 year old female asian from Indonesia. Born April 2 1980, at 11.25pm. I'm an aries. I've never had a real working relationship and i consider myself not to have much self confident which can be very hard when it comes to my career. I'm very easily intimidated by other people and don't know how to deal with it. Please give me any insights on me.
Thank you.

Answer
Hi Dita,

You were born during the year of the Metal Monkey, month of the Earth Rabbit, day of the Fire Horse and hour of the Earth Rat.

First let me say you have excellent balance among the elements in your chart. That means you have lots of good qualities.

There are problems, however, with your four signs. Monkey and Rat are perfect for each other. Unfortunately Horse and Rabbit, your month and day signs, are neither compatible with each other or with your Rat and Monkey signs. This means you have a lot of conflicts going on within you. A major one is that Monkey and Rat are very cerebral, always thinking. They like to use logic in making their decisions. The Horse and Rabbit are very emotional signs, and like to be spontaneous and to follow their heart. In fact Horse (your day sign) is the worst possible match for Rat, your hour sign.

This means you are likely to have internal conflicts. Decision making can be very troublesome. The Rat likes to take a roundabout approach, while the Horse is direct. The Monkey is a thinker, whereas the Rabbit very much responds to emotions. This can make you very unpredictable. It can also cause that lack of self confidence you noted in your question.

What can you do about it? As far as changes to make, you can't do much at all. You are you. The most important thing is to recognize that you have these inner conflicts. And, that it is ok. You are just being you. Don't let it get you down.

Second, you should know that the Horse lady, especially the Fire Horse, often has trouble with relationships. If you would like, you can order a full, relationship reading at www.firepig.com, and i can go into all the details. It is a lengthy report. The most important thing you can do is to match up with someone who is compatible with you. That is challenging given your sign mix. Looking at all your signs, i'd say someone born in the year of the Dragon is the best match for you, i..e, someone four years older or eight years younger.

If you would like to learn more about your signs, i highly recommend Theodora Lau's The Handbook of Chinese Horoscopes. Also, please visit my site, www.firepig.com.

Thank u for your question.