Expert: Anka Nowicki - 7/23/2011

Question
QUESTION: hi
I"m a 15 year old girl who is  a bisexual but mostly attracted to woman  i have a family that doesn't accept homosexuals my church doesn't accept homosexuals either so i stopped going there ,I'm trying to find a religion that will accept me i don't want to go to a church in still hear that adam and eve stuff again i don't have a conflict with it but i just want to know the truth about homosexuality and from what i seen on the internet is hebrew and greek bible tells the truth is that true??? if so please help me because I"m trying to go buy a bible and start reading today please and thank you

Makala

ANSWER: Hi Makala,

Thanks for your question. The first things that I can tell you is that homosexuality and religion do not go together. If you are homosexual then you'll find it very difficult to find any religion that will accept you for who you are - in fact most religions would consider you a very bad person because of your sexual preference.

Why do you feel that you need to find any religion or cult that will accept you? You do not need outside approval for who you are. You are at an influential age dealing with complex issues, and the last thing you need is to go looking for religions to accept you - they will most likely try and change the way you are instead. Secondly, the last place you should try and look for "truth" is the bible or any other religious books. There are extremely outdated, unreliable and mostly fictional.

I'm not sure I understand what "truth" you are trying to find about homosexuals. I'm no expert on homosexuality but I know that religious organizations are not the place to look. If you have questions regarding homosexuality I'd suggest asking an expert in that field on allexperts.com.
If you have any other questions related to atheism feel free to ask.

Kind regards,

Anka

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QUESTION: thank you ,but i wanted to just try to get closer to god ,so many things happening in my life i feel as if he punishing me and people just told me that the new testament says god love homosexuals and all but i kinda didn't believe it was true but if my mother hear me say that she would flip out on me in seconds but can you please tell me about  atheism

Answer
Hi Malaka,

I can imagine what you're going through. It must be hard going through these changes and I'm sure it's confusing and scary. It's only natural to want something solid to hold onto and someone to support and help you. Unfortunately god, or any other supernatural beings, can't really do this for any more than a belief in unicorns or magic can. Atheism is just the rejection of the belief that there exists any gods or supernatural beings. Atheist don't believe a god exists as there is no proof to show god exists, like there is no proof that unicorns, elves or greek gods exist. Therefore, logically, I don't think anyone is punishing you. People aren't punished by a god - it just doesn't make sense.

To me personally, god seems like a father christmas for adults. It's comforting and nice to think there is a god personally watching over you and caring about you; but the reality is is that there most likely isn't. Just think about it. If there was no supernatural being out there, what would the world look like? Exactly as it looks today. Beautiful, chaotic, poor, rich, violent, peaceful, indifferent. Just as it would be without any supernatural being, god, spirit or divine creator existing.

When I came to the conclusion years ago that there probably isn't any god out there, it was like being free. Free from guilt and worry and frustration trying to make sense of religion and gods. Once I logically realized that god doesn't exist, suddenly the smoke cleared and I could see things for what they really are. It's hard to accept, especially if you have been brought up in a very religious family and community, but it is truly liberating when you realize that religion is just man made.

If you think you are actually atheist, or want to know more, then there is no need to tell your mother if you think it will just make things more complicated. Atheism is not a religion and there is no need to "spread the word" or "convert" others. Maybe later when things have settled down you could tell family, but do what is best for your situation.

Also, look at other websites if you want to learn more about atheism. But please don't feel that there is a god out there punishing you and don't feel that you need to please any gods. They don't exist.

If you have any question I'd be happy to hear from you again.

All the best
Anka