AboutSijka Expertise I was diagnosed (finally) with A.D.D.at the age of 38. I always knew there was something not connecting in my brain, but little was known when I was growing up about A.D.D.
I know how hard it is to explain to others about your "brain patterns" and habits.
I know how hard it is to keep things in order and to find those "IMPORTANT" papers you know you just had in your hands and now they are missing--right into thin air. I've been there and am still there!
Experience I studied, attended seminars with the experts, worked with psychologists and doctors to become the only "informed teacher" in a school district.I worked with teachers and parents to understand the mind patterning and the options of medication and behavioral patterning.
I also have worked with adults on pstructuring their lives to assist in development of routine organization (I must admit that I am a lot better with others than myself!!)
I am "pro" medication-but NOT the generic. For adults there are several meds that can be used and combinations that work well.
I have been away from working with children for 12 years but am able to come up with strategies and resources for you. .
Organizations
Publications "Cooperative Learning" (johnson and Johnson Method) in Exceptional Children in early 80's.
Did research on "hooked-On-Phonics" before "they" had any themselves!
Education/Credentials I have a Bachelors in Speech Path and Audiology
A Masters in Educational Psychology and Counseling.
I taught a total of 27 years-regular ed., spec. ed., administration, consultant and advocate for children and adults with ADD.
Awards and Honors I am still optimistic that one day I WILL BE ORGANIZED!!
me and my ADD bf has been together for 4 years, love him to bits but handling his ADD is really tiring. sometimes i wonder how i can cope for 4 years.
Please advise on some ways to handle them. how could i make him concentrate on one thing and not all over the show.
what can i do to make him calm, as he is over super sensitive, get angry easily, easily hurt, easily happy, over excited!
and please tell me, whether this could be treated? ITS REALLY HECTIC FOR ME! he knows he has ADD, and he ever told me that he seems to enjoy his ADD!
Please help
Answer Muhlizah,
Your boyfriend has to see that his ADD/ADHD is not helping him in having a totally functional, productive life before he seeks help. Nothing you can do will help him if he is not ready. All you are going to do is frustrate yourself and probably mess up your relationship.
It is not YOUR job to "handle" his ADD. If he has lived with it for a long time without treatment, his patterns of behavior are set. It will take treatment and lots of hard work to relearn new skills. He will not be able to learn new coping skills unless his mind is in a state to accept it. Yes, I do mean medication. I am a proponent of medication in "true cases" of adult ADD. The medication allows the mind to awaken enough to realize new learning is taking place. The medications are stimulants, they "wake up" the part of the brain that is the Organizer.
Here are several websites that you can visit to learn more about ADD and coping with a loved one with ADD:
