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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| shy lone wolf? | 2/8/2012 | Rhapsody Love |
| Q: I'm an undergrad (19 yrs old) in art school and I really like this guy (my age) who also attends my ... A: Renee, I was shy when I was young, too. I thought a lot about what kind of guy I wanted and when ... | ||
| Love me & Leave | 2/2/2012 | Rhapsody Love |
| Q: All the guys I have a great "connection" with act like the perfect man and then ignore me when they ... A: Abby, I don't know much about what you do with men when you date them, how long you date them, or ... | ||
| Is it ok to message someone you haven't really met? | 1/17/2012 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: There was a cute guy at a volunteer meeting at my church last Sunday. We didn't really talk, but ... A: It's not "weird" to message him. It'd be "weird" to stalk him however. You have tons of context ... | ||
| Should you message someone you've never met? | 1/17/2012 | Rhapsody Love |
| Q: I met a cute guy at a volunteer meeting at my church last Sunday. We didn't really talk, but kept ... A: Teresa, No, I don't think it's weird. I do it all the time. I'm active in my church and know people ... | ||
| A Flirt Without Follow Through | 1/15/2012 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I have feelings for a man that I know from work. We work for two separate companies but in the same ... A: Here's where this is going: nowhere. Here's what happened: yes, he was very interested in you. He ... | ||
| looks but nothing else | 1/9/2012 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: My name is Fabi. I am separated and have two kids. I am 37 years old. I work in a hospital and there ... A: While there might be some kind of attraction, I'm not sure it's really much to go on. You don't even ... | ||
| Confused and yearning for possibilities | 12/31/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I left my boyfriend of seven years for a co-worker. I actually left him for many other reasons than ... A: decisions like these should be made with the head, not the heart..obviously, you haven't known him ... | ||
| What's going on here?? | 12/19/2011 | Azure |
| Q: So I am hoping you can help me with a very confusing situation. Last year I started dating "John". I ... A: why he maintains it isn't important--as i see it, you're wasting your time/emotions, on a ... | ||
| Dating rut | 10/15/2011 | Rhapsody Love |
| Q: Whenever I think of my dating and love life I feel soooo sad because I know I am not living up to my ... A: I'm copying your questions and putting a ">>" in front of each one so I can keep track and you'll ... | ||
| I like him so much-he has a gf | 10/10/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, I read about you and I am interested in hearing your opinion on my situation. I am ... A: It's a little different for men and women. I'd never advise a man to ask a woman out via email, but ... | ||
| Dating rut | 10/10/2011 | Rhapsody Love |
| Q: Whenever I think of my dating and love life I feel soooo sad because I know I am not living up to my ... A: If sleeping with them is not helping to make the relationship serious, then you need to get to know ... | ||
| I like him so much-he has a gf | 10/3/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Dennis W. Neder, I read about you and I am interested in hearing your opinion on my situation. I am ... A: No, your email isn't immature at all. This is the sort of problem that everyone faces sometime in ... | ||
| what do you make out of this? | 10/3/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Where can I find a financially stable committed guy? I live in NY and I'm 28 years old. My love life ... A: Here on the "left coast", there's a woman that gives a seminar, "How to Marry a Millionaire". As you ... | ||
| Something wrong with me? | 9/14/2011 | Rhapsody Love |
| Q: I can't seem to find decent men, I am 23 and have tried pubs and clubs and internet dating. and all ... A: Renita, Sometimes men are just horny and sex-obsessed. I think hormones have something to do with ... | ||
| How can I find my soulmate (a fellow loner)? | 9/3/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I'm a 19-year-old girl. I don't like to admit this to very many people, but my only real goal in ... A: no magic answers alexandria..finding the right person is challenging for a great many; you have to ... | ||
| Man of my dreams! | 8/18/2011 | Rhapsody Love |
| Q: I met someone over a couple of weeks ago and wow we have a wonderful connection and we both seem to ... A: Alison, I think you're right on about your thinking about this man. Yes, certainly many lifelong ... | ||
| Tired of being single | 7/11/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am a 36 year old woman who has been single for 3 years and I'm tired of it. I feel ... A: Yes, I avoided those questions because they're too large for this forum. You can see what's involved ... | ||
| Tired of being single | 7/11/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Dr. Neder, I am a 36 year old woman who has been single for 3 years and I'm tired of it. I feel ... A: I really love it when I get this question. It's not that I'm happy for your pain and loneliness. Far ... | ||
| Swallowing dissatisfaction for a long time now | 7/8/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Nader, Before I begin, I would like to thank you for taking the time out for me, especially since ... A: I like to think of relationships like ladders rather than roads. The idea is that you (hopefully) ... | ||
| Swallowing dissatisfaction for a long time now | 7/6/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Nader, Before I begin, I would like to thank you for taking the time out for me, especially since ... A: First of all, I think you've made some very serious mistakes here. You had a chance with him that ... | ||
| New relationship | 7/1/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I've recently entered a new relationship, it's been 2 months. He is 10 years older than me. I'm 24 ... A: Ah! The chase question. I get this one at least 3-4 times a week. Let me give you another name for ... | ||
| Was he hinting at something? | 6/20/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I went on a date with a man, we are both 29, and on our first date, he looked at me and said "your ... A: I can't possibly know specifically what he's insecure about. YOU had the date with him - not me. You ... | ||
| Was he hinting at something? | 6/20/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I went on a date with a man, we are both 29, and on our first date, he looked at me and said "your ... A: Yes. He's not only hinting, he's flat-out telling you that he's insecure. Best regards... Dr. ... | ||
| .......:X What should I tell my daughter???? | 6/8/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Neder, It may be none of my business, but when my thirteen-year-old daughter tells me that she ... A: I'm also an advocate for abused people - men AND women and have worked with them in many capacities; ... | ||
| Should I let it be? | 6/2/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Last summer I met a boy in drama camp. I have very strong emotions towards him. I can hardly take my ... A: First of all, I'm very proud of you for asking this question! Do you have any idea how few girls ... | ||
| I like this guy and I'm too shy... | 5/2/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I really like this guy named Austin but I'm too shy to say hi. My friends think that I should get ... A: Here's the reality: if you do nothing, it's almost a given that nothing will happen. Is that what ... | ||
| Trying to get the guy I'm growing up with to like me. | 4/29/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I've known this guy since sixth grade and it's been a while. We're in ninth grade, soon to be ... A: I know. It gets really confusing when you go online trying to get some help. There are so many ... | ||
| Looking For Love | 4/17/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I am a 32 year old woman. I have dated very little in my life. Most of the sexual experience I have ... A: I'll address your last point first. If your faith harms you, I absolutely WILL NOT "respect it". ... | ||
| why do i attract young men | 4/11/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I am a recently single 24 (turning 25) year old women. I am working in my studied career, and have ... A: Not knowing how you look or how you dress, it's impossible for me to comment on either of those ... | ||
| what happened? | 4/8/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: Hey Nicolette! Actually, I'm writing a new book on exactly this - and how to actually be successful ... | ||
| what happened? | 4/7/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: Next indeed!!!! Best regards... Dr. Dennis W. Neder President/CEO/Executive Producer ... | ||
| what happened? | 4/6/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: My "instinct"? Just that he's kidding and having fun. I wouldn't read anything into it. This is yet ... | ||
| ex | 4/2/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: My ex has been in my mind for over a year now but I've been trying to move on as nothing has ... A: Hey Tamara! First of all, what do you want here? Do you really want to be his friend or are you ... | ||
| how to attract a shy guy | 3/29/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I would like a male opinion and advice. At university there's a grad student which helps out me and ... A: I generally recommend that you use Facebook as a last resort. Unfortunately, it's the only resort ... | ||
| hey | 3/24/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: well, this is kind of weird haha sorry but umm i go to school with this guy i like him a lot and ... A: DO NOT try to impress him! All you'll wind up doing is looking like you're working too hard. ... | ||
| i can not let go of him but I can not marry now.. | 3/14/2011 | Azure |
| Q: I met a generous, caring and loving man. we have been dating long distance for 2 years now and he ... A: seems like HE had no problem letting go..maybe that fact will help; the best decisions are based on ... | ||
| How to forget him?? | 3/13/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: my problem is that i love someone who is in my class. i think of him all the time for about two ... A: No, it's not that you "can't forget him", it's that you "won't forget him". You don't have a ... | ||
| Man Of My Dreams | 3/10/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: Hey theres this guy I grew up with. He's a football player, tall, sensitive and sweet. I have always ... A: You're 280 what? Pounds? You've said it yourself - this is YOUR insecurity. You don't get to decide ... | ||
| Flirting, long distance? | 3/2/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: I have a summer job that I just started this past summer. I met an amazing guy while working there, ... A: First of all, you need to know this: long-distance relationships ("LDR's") simply never work out. ... | ||
| Seeking a deep relationship | 2/26/2011 | Dr. Dennis W. Neder |
| Q: My situation might seem a bit more unique and unusual from others, so if you are not well-trained in ... A: Hey Diamond! I'm not going to waste my time reading or answering anything here. You live in a world ... | ||
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