How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/HELP!!!

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Expert: - 1/7/2008


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Ok,first of all, I want to attract the woman of my dreams, not a man. I could'nt find the other category...so i am a man that seeks a woman. Anyway, I am 21, I've done good for myself, I have money, a new truck....my personality is awesome I think and I really believe everyone else thinks so too. I have tons of absolutely gorgeous girlfriends who love me to death...and its torture, do you think any of them would want a relationship? NO....heres the problem...got its not even that bad but I am overweight some....as far as looks I think I'm good looking, but it prolly would show more if I was'nt fat right?? Heres what I'm asking.... Is there anything I can do to get a hot girl? lol is there a trick to it??......I really feel that if I weighed 80 pounds less than I do they would flock to me ......sad but prolly true....help me?

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Hello Jeff!

Huh? Ok, you're a heterosexual. That's mostly what we deal with here, so you're in the right place. There are separate sections for "finding the man of your dreams" and "finding the woman of your dreams", but it gets to me either way.

If you're 80 pounds overweight, you need to get that in check. Your looks aren't that important, but being this unhealthy certainly is. Here it is, the new year, get working on your weight problem and get it solved once and for all. You can get away with being 20 pounds overweight, but it's quite a different thing to be obese.

Yes, there are tricks to getting really beautiful women. There are clear, specific things you want to know and to do in order to land hot girls; however, you're going to have to deal with the weight issue well before you get to those, so focus on that problem right now. If you lose 2 pounds per week, by summer, you'll be about 40-50 pounds lighter and can start focusing on your skill set.

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