Expert: Rhapsody Love - 10/16/2008

Question
I see this girl in my gym every now and then, who i think is stunning. If i was to randomly go up to her and say "Excuse me, i just wanted to come over and say that i think you're absolutely gorgeous". Would she like that  because this is rare ?
Is this to cheesy ? Or would girls like it & blush because it makes their day - plus impressing them cos the guy had confidence? What happens if a girl giggles / blushes & says thank you? Is this good ? Please be honest because i really want to speak to this girl...


Answer
Dany,

Girls are different in their reaction and their thoughts. She might react as if she was insulted that you were so bold and then think that it was a complement. I think most girls like to be told they are pretty or "gorgeous" but that doesn't indicate how she might react. I don't know if she'll be impressed with your confidence or embarrassed or insulted by it. She might think it's too bold. It might be better to say, "do you mind if I tell you something? I think you're absolutely gorgeous!" That's almost the same but it takes into consideration her feelings. She might appreciate that approach better.

If she says "thank you" that would mean she's polite and not necessarily that she's looking for another approach. What do you know about her? Could she be a lesbian? Could she be in a relationship? Starting a conversation with how you think she looks might make it awkward to get it into a comfortable friendly conversation so you can learn more about her. You can always wait and tell her how she looks to you later. It might be a nice thing to say on a first night out to dinner.

If you have a gut feeling that you have to take the bold approach, go ahead. Maybe it will go well after that, maybe not. You'll never know until you try.

Good luck!

- Joyce