Expert: L.E. Coleman - 10/28/2008

Question
Okay I am 19 and haven't dated anyone for a really long time. im in college and am busy and i also work alot which is fine.  however, it seems like everytime i am attracted to someone they aren't, or the ones that I am not really into are, and then i feel like a witch cause I just dont see anything there.  I dont know what to do!!!  If I don't like them, I dont like them I guess.  I'm confused!  I just want the right one!

Answer
Hello Misskitty.

What are your intentions right now, Miss Kitty?  And by 'intentions,' I mean, what are your primary thoughts you send out into the universe everyday? (your prayers, etc.)  In other words, what are you affirming, seeing and believing with your spirit?  All of this might seem like metaphysical mumbo-jumbo, but I assure you, it's not.
It seems like you're not congruent on one level.  For example, you're a busy woman with your study, and you work a lot.  Where would you find the time to spend with that 'special someone' even if he were to show up?  Relationships take time to develop. You're primary problem is that you must have clarity about what you really want and then you must set your intention upon it.  A great education is okay, but it doesn't seem like it's the end all for you. You desire a relationship--and this is good. If you want a man who understands the importance of your goals and who will also love you like you want to be loved, you must set your intentions, your prayers, upon this kind of relationship and let it go.  You are way ahead of the game--so to speak-- for not settling for what you don't want.  You must always keep in mind that you WANT a relationship--you don't NEED a relationship.  Want implies that you can do without having someone in your life right now and 'need' often lead women to make choices out of desperation.  
The law of attraction holds that like attracts like. The old myth that states that people are attracted to people who are their opposites is exactly that--a myth.  What this means is this: If you concentrate on loving yourself fully, you'll attract a man who will love you completely, deeply, in the way you most desire.  This means that it's time for you get clear about who you are and what you really want.  Take the time to examine whether you are wanting or needing someone.  Devote as much time to self-introspection as you do for your study.  If you are stuck in the 'needing mode' you will continue to draw the wrong kind of men into your life.  
Again, I admire you for not being sucked into a relationship with men who you internally know are not for you.  Ask yourself why you want someone in your life. Start from there and don't stop until you have some clarity.