Expert: Dr. Dan - 11/16/2008

Question
Hello there:

I met a guy spontaneously at a friends house 2 nights ago.  He mentioned he had heard so much about me because we work for the same organization.  I heard his name before but never met him.

As the night went on we had some laughs, he started dancing with me, and I later went on the computer to change some music and he came over and where i was and started looking at the music with me and hugging my legs.

I was with a friend who was going home early, so i said i was going to leave.  he said why don't you stay over here and go to the bars with us, i said i have alot to do tomorrow and i have no clothes, he said you can wear mine, etc.  I said no i have to go, he looked all in a huff (like angry almost to say fine then).  i said would u like to keep in touch, he said yeah.  he got my email there and sent me a message basiclly saying i was hot and to call him with his number in the email.

there was some talk from him and others about me going out with them tomorrow, i said yeah maybe we'll see what happens cause i have plans with a friend.

i was so tired the next day i didn't contact them, and they didn't contact me.  i waited a day and just responded to his email.  i said you may also contact me, the days i could be reached at that number, as i am going on a vacation away.  short and simple email and i threw a few jokes in.

my question is should i wait for him to call me.  i think he may be going away for work as he doesn't work in the city, but will be returning etc.  i am going away on my trip, and coming back in a few weeks..

i am not sure what he wanted (maybe just some action that night), he said did i mention i was single and disease free?

Anyway it would be nice to go out on a date to get to know him better.  Any tips on keeping him interested.  and if i don't see him for 3 or 4 weeks, do u think he will just forget the whole thing as there was nothing sexual involved.

also i was concerned, ina span of 2 hours he mentioned 3 different girls he had flings with.  he was telling stories about them in a joking way.

Answer
Thanks for taking the time to write in and ask for help Janice. First I’m gonna ask that you allow us to post this answer here on the site so that it could help others that are going through the same thing.

I could go on and on about this for hours but I will keep it short. He wanted sex that night and when he didn’t get what he wanted, he acted like a toddler wanting more cake. I see this alot with my private clients and men that have not worked out issues from there past. I go over this in my book "How to Attract the Person of Your Dreams and Keep Them!" Secret # 9 Be Honest. Most of the population is in search for pleasure. They don’t understand that there is more to life than “what I want.” The few that do understood this, are the ones in committed relationships. So we can learn alot from them and this is where I learned most of my content for my books. You could call him and see what he says, but he is still in the “game playing” part of his life. Most of the time they don’t understand they are even doing it. I would recommend finding someone that will not play games and definitely doesn’t talk about other flings. Unfortunately a lot of guys are learning these pick up techniques from these pick up artists. They believe it cause some type of social approval to the woman. That this guy must be a good catch if he had other women after him. This will only work with women that live in bars in search of mr right now. That is why I say friends don’t let friends be pick up artists.

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