Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 11/17/2008

Question
hi
a guy hurted me 2 yaers ago and rejectd me and he didn,t want to been with me,when he was drunk he didn,t care hr hutrted me and he didn,t say sorry he went off kissing another girl in front of me .i was crying all chritmas day last year over the him.and boosting to me about all the girlfreinds he had .just to make to make sure i felt the rejection.i still couldn,t get over the pain and rejection he caused me .i just found out yesterday  .he got him a brand new girlfreind.and looks at girls like sex objects.
hes not ex boyfreind just guy i liked.i suppose nothing i can do to hurt him.because he hurted and rejected me.i thought he was nice guy but he like all the rest shallow and sefish and cold,he really cold towards doesn,t even acknowlege me.just bear movement of the head .i can,t move on its hurts me to much its not fair ,why anm i suffer at the hands of those shallow batards,why is always the guys i like reject me for some slapper he in nightclub i am nice person with not so great social skills.

he foward and cheeky,who it seems can any girlfreind he wants .
why when i like a guy i get rejected BUT when he likes a girl HE DOES NOT GET REJECTED ,how can this be .i don,t understand at all.its unfair and not right,guys have all the say anc control,there the boss they get to choose waether  or not a girl is goddenough to been with him as girlfreind.
no guy wnats to be seen with me.

it seem guys don,t care hurting a fat & unattractive girls feeling and walk off scott free with out conscinece.

but there never insult a girl he fancies oh no we can,t have that, guys are 2 faced always have been awlays .

this 12 yaer of my life i end with NO boyfreind not evene glimer of romance any where.

all because i wasn,t what he looking for in a girlfrend .i have never had a boyfreind i know nothing about kissing or how to french kissing.i have being never kissed .i don,tknow how and i am 27yaers old going 28 yaers old.

i have being rejeted by single guy i likedover 12 yaers and not a single success.

it seem guys never ever get rejeted and they always get what they wnat no matter what the cirstance.which is very unfair to me.i lose out and they succeed.this guy is untouchable and he popular and guy like him and all they girls like him.he can get girlfrends no problem its seems.he lets on he nice guy whan he shallow and cold,to people he doesn,tlike like me.

life is very cruel on me.why i can,t have boyfreind.
its like i am cured ,eveny nerdy guy rejeetd me thet very bad record.i am overweight and short in height i look a drawft with thick legs.i not pretty but i am smart ,nice person.now becasue of all the rejection guys have caused me i very shy ,very very very very low self estreem

please don,t feed me guy like personality and inteigent bit because you know that lie.it only looks are are after and who they fancy.guy have never fanced no matter how goo effoert i make .i automatic put on the rejected list with out question.not even the intelleigent will give me ago,i never ever get aked out not once.

please help.will you give lengh answer and tell what in themalemind so i can understand why this hppen to me .
why  guys don,t care you whenthey hurt someone feelings and forget .and move on its cruel and calous and very cold.

please help.its mans world its true and women are serviants  

Answer
Dear Ann,

I'm really sorry to hear about this, and I know you have written before.  There is little I can do from here to help with these feelings you have.  I recommend that you see a counselor of therapist who can help you work through these feelings and hurts and rejections.  It is sad to read of a lifetime of hurt and rejection, and I hope you will seek professional help with this.  

Warm regards,
Susan Dunn
www.susandunn.cc