Expert: L.E. Coleman - 12/8/2008

Question
Hi I'm so confused?? My best friend since 5th grade is in my class this year he and I have lockers next to each other. I kind of like him. I don't know if he likes me back though?? We talk all the time and he tells me almost everything. I am not the prettiest girl in school I'm kind of chubby. He just moved. Right near the library. I go there after school and he walks with me. He likes cars and guns and stuff... I need to know how to talk to him without sounding like an idiot??????  HELP!?!?!?!?!?!

Answer
Hi Seira.

There is no way around being yourself.  If you beat around the bush with your friend you'll never know if he likes you in that way.  He's your friend, right?  So if he's really your friend he's going to be honest about whether or not he's interested.  It sounds like he already sees you as a great friend because he's able to talk to you about a variety of things.  Saying that you 'kind of like him' is not the same as saying he's the right one for you. When two people are really meant for each other, things have a way of working themselves out without anyone trying to force the relationship.  This is what the Law of Attraction is all about.
As to the other matter--that is to say, your self esteem--you're going to have to think seriously about how you feel about yourself because this will have a great deal to do with IF and WHEN Mr. Right shows up for you.  And believe me, he's not going to care if you're chubby or not.  But right now, you care about your looks and your size, or else you would have never mentioned it.  You think that your looks and your weight will have something to do with boys rejecting you.  This will be true--but only for those boys who do not see how beautiful a person you are. Therefore, the boys who do reject you were never meant for you.  They're not your soul mate.
It sounds like you're a young lady, so there's no need to rush anything. If your best friend is THE ONE, you won't be able to do anything to stop the two of you from being together.  If, on the other hand, he's not the ONE, enjoy the friendship. It's only when we give up the fear that things won't work for us, that Mr. Right will come along.  So, let go of your fear about how you're going to sound to him, or whether or not you and he will hook up.  When you let go of all fear you can enjoy spending time with him without feeling like you have to make a good impression.

Keep me posted

LC