Expert: Erica - 2/8/2008

Question
i was wondering how would i attract an older man about 36 or 37 years of age  i am 26 years.guys my own age are jerks and shallow,i,d like to meet.spophcated and cultured and with taste not a guy who shallow and i mean really shallow guys i meet they cruel and unkind to me ,they basely don,t what to been seen with me and insulting and boastful.

Answer
Hi Louise,
First I want to apologize that it has taken me so long to respond to your question.  Due to the bad weather - our systems have been down and I am usually on top of returning emails... So, I must say that I am sorry for not getting back to you faster.

I believe that to attract anyone you only need to be yourself.  There are a lot of older men that are extremely immature and a lot of men your own age that are very mature.  So, I don't think that the actual age of the person is that relevant, but rather where they are at in their lives.  You can find an older man that is cruel, unkind, insulting, and boastful.  It happens with all men and women.  Therefore, you have set a wonderful standard for yourself - to not allow any man to treat you in such a fashion and you continue to live your life to the best!!  When the time is right you will meet someone (we don't know how old he will be) and by not settling for someone who is disrespectful you are allowing yourself the opportunity to meet "Mr. Right"... So, good job in knowing what you want, but I assure you that the actual number in regards to the age has very little relevance.  Trust me on that.... Good Luck and I hope it helps.... if you are looking for a more mature crowd in general... maybe try some new interests that appeal to the type of crowd you are looking for.... this opens up a whole new door for you to expand your circle of friends...