Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 2/8/2008

Question
There is a guy that I have met on 3 occasions now. He is a friend of one of my friends. The first 2 times we met we were at bar/club type places, he  chatted with me, hung arond me most of the night, we danced, he bought me drinks. The other night my friend had a get together at her home and he was there. We basically spent the ENTIRE night getting to know each other. He asked me many questions about my background, job, etc, we talked about alot of things. He spent the majority of the evening with me either talking or teasing me in a playful way. He made a point to touch me a few times and even hugged me twice. We talked so long that it became EXTREMELY late at night, and neither one of us realized. He told me to call him and was about to give me his phone number but I didn't have my phone on me. We had a moment when we were alone and I thought he might try to kiss me but he didn't. At the end of the night he walked me to my car and gave me a hug and kiss briefly on the lips and started walking to his car. He then turned and told me to call him (to get his number from my friend), but then said "you know for the "...""( we had discussed the fact that I could get some gratis type things from my job he was interested in). So here is my questions: is he interested in me? If so why did he not ask for my number or try to kiss me? also, does he only want to me to call him for that reason or is that an excuse to call him? I like him and he is someone I could see myself definately dating, so what should I do now? I am not sure the next time I will see him? I am confused, thanks!

Answer
He could be interested, and probably best he didn't kiss you at that point, actually.  You don't want it to move too fast.  Why not call about the other thing - it's a connection - and see what happens?  That's a good way to clear up the confusion - work it through.

All the best,
Susan