Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 4/10/2008

Question
ok, there is this boy in my block .. he talks to me and everythin n some times he wants to kiss me ,. i dont know if he is playin or not .. but i like him n he has not dicided to ask me out even tho he said im his type . n i dont want to aske him out cuz im playin hard on him!!lol

Answer
Hello Paola!

Wait a minute Paola...I'm getting a vision of your future...yes, it's coming...wait a minute...ok there it is!

There you are sitting there all alone on a Saturday night by yourself wondering why no guys ask you out!

Is that really the future you want? If so, you're well on your way with this "playing hard on him" game! That's exactly the type of garbage that girls pull all the time and then sit alone week after week wondering why no guys will play it with them. Then, they see their girlfriends all going out with these great guys because they know better.

If that's really what you want, then be my guest. If you don't want that, then read on.

STOP with this stupid game already! Understand this: no guy is going to work that hard for nothing - and that's exactly whaty you're giving him. He'll simple find easier targets to spend his time with. Further, he probably doesn't know how to get past it, so he'll just move on, assuming you're not interested.

Now, you're going to have to do his work for him because of this dumb game. You're going to have to ask him out instead! See, isn't that fun? You just made all this work for yourself and now you have to take all the risks if you don't want to be alone!

Good job!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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