Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 5/23/2008

Question
hi susan
i think romance and love isn,t for me.because i have been rejcted 11 yaers in a row .guys aren,t attratced to me and i don,t know how to attracted a guy.guys hav all the control .they,ll ask out who suit them selves.
even though i dress nice and act nice and its no good.it just a waste of time.i never even got first kiss .
do you know may be off on my own .and may be i wasn,t to have boyfreind and i can,t even get a job.there is no jobs in ireland.
rejection is a sigh i was meant to be on my own,i don,t act deperate or nothing ,i am nice person and not sexy i don,t flirt.my ma no guy will ever like me and she right  may be i am not  worth knowing.i have no xperence with men may be i am not meant to.
rejection is sign i was meant to be alone .guys are scum.any guy i have liked is scum.

dressing up nice and acting nice deos nothing for me i am still left there.guys boost to me about all there conquests  to me making for me like one of his mates talking locker room talk to me.
i don,t act desperate i am just sad and lonely ,pathetic ,
i will always hate the guys who have  hurted my feelings .there is a lot of them.i,ll never recover from rejection and i will be always be scour with blokes .for rejection and being mean.
blokes would rather the sluts out there to some one nice like me who gets walk all over and treated like door mat.

Answer
I'm sorry this has happened to you, as I've said before.  It's a good time to concentrate on other areas of your life where you can have some success.  Dating is always rather complex.  Just because a man rejects you, is no comment on you as a person.  This is a good time for you to work on career goals, learning and reading, and things like that.  

All the best,
Susan