Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 5/9/2008

Question
I have met a really great guy.  Its almost of the dreams kind of feeling in all aspects but one, he is a very flirtatious man with many female friends, and the way he speaks and acts with all these ladies and even ones he doesn't know is kind of unsettling.  He calls them baby and sweetie and other "sweeten em up" names and he is like touchy feely with them  such as many and long close hugs ect. ect.  I really don't know what to think of this because he seems like such a great man for me,  and I have never considered myself the jealous woman but the way he treats other women makes me very uncomfortable.  I have even asked him out of respect for me not to address women the way he does, and he said he would     but he still talks with them that way and is the feely type.  i am very confused and i am not sure what to think could you please help me out with some advice, appreciate it.  I would almost say he is the perfect man for me  except for that aspect, it makes me very uncomfortable.  And I also don't think i should settle for less, but I am not sure how to go about this because i really like him and i know he really like me,  what to do what to do?  Thanks

Answer
This is a tough one.  He COULD be just affectionate and expressive - no doubt one of the reasons why he appeals to YOU so much.  You may be jealous for the first time because you really like this guy.  It's a concern that you asked him to stop, he said he would, and then did not.  Is that going to be a pattern in the relationship?  THis could be a sign that you just aren't compatible.  Wait and see.  Keep testing your feelings.  It will either get worse or better.

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Susan
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