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I am a 59-yr-old female with limited relationship experience due to being a caregiver for my mother. Four years ago, however, I met a man who is now 74. We are very attracted to one another. On and off for the past 4 years we have been involved in an intimate relationship which also involves going to dinner, etc. now and then. I am puzzled, however, why he has never introduced me to his friends or grown children. I know all about his children because he shares everything with me. I think they know about me, but we've just never met. This man and I live in the same building, which makes it easy to share intimate time watching t.v., fixing dinner, etc. I almost feel like a mistress, but that isn't the case. For instance, he is attending a wedding today of the daughter of a friend of his, but of course, did not ask me to be his guest. He'll share things with me after a shopping trip and a couple of weeks ago gave me a special pillow because of the stiff neck I always have. I've tried to accept the way things are, but lately I'm feeling more and more uncomfortable. He really isn't interested in meeting my friends, either. Is this common behavior for an older man?
Hello Karen!
No, I wouldn't say it's "common behavior" for any man - older or younger. It's apparent he has an agenda, but neither you nor I know what that is. I don't know because I don't read minds, and you don't know because you haven't asked him!
Can you guess my advice???
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Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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Literally, any question related to finding and meeting the man of your dreams. I am the top-rated expert in "General Dating Questions", "How to Attract the Man/Woman of your Dreams" and "Places to Meet People". In fact, over the past few years, I've answered over 32,000 letters from readers, have written over 700 articles, written numerous books, recorded CD's and DVD's, done hundreds of radio and tv shows and have millions of readers all over the world. If your question is particularly sensitive you can also write to me privately and securely at: dwneder@beingaman.com.
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I've written many books on every aspect of dating, sex and relationships. My new book, "How Women Can Approach Men" is already quickly becoming one of our best-sellers! Women have many tools at their disposal and shouldn't have to wait for "Mr. Right" to come along!
After reading some of the advice the women in this section are getting from other women, I think it's a good idea to offer a man's perspective.
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