Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 6/6/2008

Question
Hi,

I'm 27 years old and I have 2 roommates, one is 22 and the other 24. Back in February they both screamed at me for forgetting to clean the apartment for 4 weeks. It was my turn to do it that month and I completely forgot every weekend because I had a lot of exams and they didn't have any exams. So they got really angry, screaming at me and saying a lot of rude things.

But after that I have always helped them clean, so it is ok. We haven't had any problems after that.

However, whenever I walk by their rooms I always hear both of them whispering about me and my name being said, they are gossiping about whatever they don't like about me, and when I walk by they stop talking and look embarrassed. They are both smirking and laughing about me quietly.

So it is June now and I am moving out of the apt this August and will be moving back in with my parents. So I have 11 more weeks to live with them.

I thought I would just ignore it for the next 11 weeks and just concentrate on school.

Or should I mention something to them? It's getting reeeeeeally annoying. I know 3 months will be here soon enough...but still...eleven weeks is a long time when you're constantly being talked about.

thanks

Answer
Hello Laurie!

You didn't clean the apartment for 4 weeks??? With 3 girls living in the same place???? Holy shit! The hairball in the sink is going to spontaneously burst into life and eat your cat!!!

What's going to happen if you mention it to them? All you're going to do is to stir up some drama you'll have to live with for 3 months. Frankly, I'd just let it slide and realize the net effect: they're going to be stuck with each other and nobody to gossip about.

The hairball in the sink is the least of their worries.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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