AboutSusan Dunn, Dating Coach Expertise I can answer any questions regarding attracting the man of your dreams including preparing yourself, letting it happen, The Rules that work and the rules that don't, meeting him, the first date, the dating relationship, recreating a failing relationship, how to tell if he's serious or not, how to get him to marry you not just date you, romance, everything. I coach clients how to do it step-by-step, and walk them through the process. I've talked with thousands of women ... let me help YOU.
Experience I have had years of experience coaching women on how to meet and marry the man of their dreams. How to catch him and keep him! Also how to get him back when he runs away, or how to get him to marry you when he's committment-shy.
Organizations Founding member of CoachVille and member of original R&D team. Former Board member and former Board chair for numerous local organizations.
Publications I am widely published on the Internet on subjects related to dating, romance and marriage, as well as other lifeskills topics. (It isn't just about "dating," it's about YOU.) I'm rated A-plus on ideamarketers, and my articles regularly appear on websites around the world.
Education/Credentials MA in Clinical Psychology.
Awards and Honors I have an international coaching and consulting practice, I train and certify other coaches worldwide, and have been a regular presenter for the cruise lines.
Past/Present Clients I have helped many, many women find the man of their dreams - and keep him.
Question There's this guy at work (I'm 18, he's 21) that I like very much. The only problem is that he's extremely shy and barely talks to anyone, especially girls, which is weird because he's also extremely attractive.
People tell me he may like me too as he talks to me sometimes and sits next to me at parties (we've been to two so far). He offered me a drive (and offered no one else), asked a friend for my number so he could ask me if I was going to a certain party, etc. At work however, he barely talks to me and it's very intimidating. Sometimes he doesn't even say hi! (he treats everyone that way at work) I'm not a shy person, but I find that I'm totally shy and self conscious around him. Now I feel like wherever I am, he is and I'm worried he thinks I'm following him :(
What can I do to grab his attention? I'm worried because he may think I'm too young for him. He just seems like a kind, caring guy if he were to open up a bit. How can I get him to open up? What can I do/say so I don't seem stalkerish?
Answer Dating at work is tricky . It's right in front of everyone, can jeopardize your job, men are usually very focused at work ... and other things. You have the perfect opportunity there because you get to be around him. When we're interested in someone is when we GET shy - guys too - because it's important so it makes us nervous. So don't take it personally that he doesn't say hi at work. Like you said, that's his word mode. He knows you, knows how to get in touch with you. When he comes around, say hi and start a little conversation - even something about the weather or traffic. Be friendly in a quiet way. There's no need to pursue. If he is interested in dating you, he will do something. This is a matter of that you don't want to screw it up - so don't be obnoxious, pushy, demanding of his time, loud and overly flirtatious at work. It'd fine to just ignore him sometimes. I'll bet opportunities will come up for a little chat. Don't push it, just let it happen and see.
