How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Shy guy meets Shy girl

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Expert: - 7/7/2008


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There is a guy at church who I think likes me but he is shy.  One day he walked up to me and gave me his number and told me to remember it.  In church he always stare at me but when I look he neve looks away or he winks and waves or go out of his way to get my attention.  The problem is I'm shy and so we never really get past the How's your week conversation. Please help... (lol)

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Hello Nise!

He doesn't sound shy, he sounds inexperienced - VERY inexperienced!

So, what are you going to do? Continue to be so shy that you lose this guy, and the next one after that? Shyness isn't an infliction - it's an excuse. You're shy because you never learned how to approach and talk to a guy. Obviously, this guy got over some of his shyness, but instead of moving this forward as he should, he's dropped it into your lap.

Now, it's your choice as to what's next.

If you can't bring yourself to go talk to him, then write down your phone number on a piece of paper and give it to him.

Either way, something has to happen here. Time is NOT your ally.

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