Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 7/7/2008

Question
hey i notice something. a lot of drop dead. gorgeous beautiful women have a really rough time dating men. im talking about those in the 9-10 range who are not stuck up bitches, they are actually nice girls.

why do u think this happens. cuz they can get any man they want.

Answer
Hello Oh-Nameless-One!

There are a number of causes for it.

First of all, men rarely approach these beauties. Most men feel intimated by them because they foolishly believe that their own looks don't match. What they don't know is that women aren't nearly as motivated by looks as men are. Women have other things that attract them.

Second, many of these women are their own worst enemies when it comes to dating. They do all sorts of really stupid things. Especially if they're aware of their looks, they do things trying to get the guys that DO approach them to jump through all sorts of hoops in order to actually date them.

For instance, they don't answer the phone when they think the guy is calling. They don't return messages when he leaves them. When they set up dates, they cancel at the last minute or just don't show; and there are about 1000 more.

It's tragic because these women actually think they're helping themselves by making the guys prove their worth and their value. In fact, all they're doing is proving to the guys that THEY are not worthy of them!

They do this also as an ego-boost. They believe that if they can get some guy chasing them, it makes them feel worthwhile. Unfortunately, the guys tire of it very quickly and move on to easier (and frankly, much better) targets. Even worse, any guy that DOES start chasing them instantly loses value in her eyes because they start thinking that he must not be much of a catch if he has to work this hard!

This is extremely sad when you think about it because these girls are at the very best they're going to ever look today. Time and gravity aren't particularly kind to women. As their looks fade, so does their self-image and they eventually wind up bitter - and alone.

Do you see how stupid this is? Even worse - I actually see other so called "experts" right here on this board, TELLING women to do this!! No shit! I just have to hang my head in disbelief and wonder whether these female experts have some vendetta against others of their own gender or something.

It's a sad state, and one that is actually growing, not declining.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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