Expert: Tracey Steinberg - 9/6/2008

Question
hi
the guy i was telling you did go out exterme amount of girls he country lad living in the city .when i meet first he wss so nice ,warm,helpful.he was year older me,i meet him doing a course.when i was up set he asked me wasi ok.
thatwas in the year 2002.i asked me every day .when we staarted he had a new girl evey night of the week by neck bites on neck.he went with a skinny blonde before he asked me out.he was chatting up girlsin the morning ,at lunch and going home.the blonde girl cane in where having our luch and said he wasn,t nice at all.yet i had luch with him by my self with him he was fine.
when i didn,t want to go out with and my ma said i rejected him its like he wasn,t short a fo girls to ask out.
i conatct him just a few weeks ago.in very email he repeats what he said in the last email.i asked him how was he keping fine he,d say ,all short answers.never asked me how i am getting on .or where am i.
iasked for his mobile number becasue lives on a fishing boat.he said to me "i asked him did he play any rubgy lately and and if he couldn,t email me to text me.
this wss hes and i quate

"hi louise all is fine don,t get access to emailand i don,t give out my mobile number sorry take care.

tell what do you make out of that sentence ?because i am lost.
he cold and ditance ,and not warm and caring as he was .
he personalty changed completelyi haven,t seen i just email him. he hasn,t seen me and i don,t know what he looks like any more . he avoids every question,he just gives me cold and short reposne.

can you help figure this out,i didn,t do to him we got great always laughing and have fun. now he just cold as ice .
i tell you a bit him :
hes 5ft10" tall. blues eyes and brown hair,well bult like a rubgy player ,his eduaction he only a junior cert that like  highschool in american terms.he uased to be mecahnice .now he wrks on his da fidhing spending 3 weeks at a time stuck on a boat he said his loves i doubt though.

he not shallow at all ,he asked me si he coudn,t be sshallow.si i am stumped .m mother might think marred still no reason to be cols towards me.

i was asking how he is innoncely and hes get cold and nasty on me and why i don,t know.he was only who ever liked and now he doesn,t like me any more ,
help understnd what just happen .

guys have rejection me all my life and its not going to stop its on going nightmare to be treated like you never good enough for any one.my females puts me down too,saying every guy sees me as a freind and she married and still puts me down.after all the rejection 12 yaers of it i don,t much point bothering with males nay more they just not intersted case close .i have such low self estreem fromall rejection i don,t feel talking to them any more its the same grief i get.over and over again.


Answer
Louise,

I cant tell you exactly what is in his head or what he is thinking.  But, based on the fact that he said that "he doesnt have access to email and he doesnt give out his number," it makes me think that this isnt the right man for you.

You deserve a man who is available to you and is actively spending energy to be with you.  Life Coach Tracey