Expert: Lanay Stockstill - 1/26/2009

Question
Hello! I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm in grade 8 at my high school and I really like a boy who's in one of my classes. One of my friends was eavesdropping on him and his friends talking (I actually told her to try to do that because she knows that I like him). Anyways, my friend told me that she heard the guy I like and his friends talking about girls in the class I have with him and she said that he said that I have DSLs. In case you don't know, DSLs means "dick sucking lips" and it's a compliment for a girl to be told that she has them. It means that a girl's lips are really big and that they would be really good for sucking dick. I was really happy that the guy I like said that because I do have really big lips and I'd love to use it on his dick! Lol! But I'm curious as to what him saying that really means... My friend told me that it's just a compliment and I shouldn't analyze it too much but I can't help but thinking that maybe he doesn't wanna be my boyfriend because he said that. Saying that a girl has DSLs might be a compliment, but it just seems to me that it would only be a compliment for a certain type of girl. And by that, I mean girls who are sluts. I'll suck the dick of the guy I like when he's my boyfriend but I'm definitely not the type of girl who'll suck off the guy I like and all his friends out of a relationship. I have some friends who are like that and seriously, they disgust me. I've heard that a lot of girls give "free blowjobs" in the boys' school bathroom and I'll just never be one of those girls. So, do you think I'm right that the guy I like only likes me in a sexual way because he said that I have DSLs? I really don't want it to be true but it just seems like to me that he would only like me for sex. I'm really confused right now... So, please help me!

Answer
I'm sure this guy is attracted to you or he wouldn't have considered you for a moment.  However, the so-called compliment is only about receiving pleasure.  Guys that are only interested in a bj are not interested in the person.  They only want the pleasure the person is giving.  Anyone can give a bj, so the girls giving them away to just anyone aren't as special as they'd like to think.  

Saying you have DSLs is only a compliment to a feature you happen to have.  It says nothing about the person you are, so you're right in thinking he is attracted to you for only sexual reasons.  Has he had the chance to get to know you other that looking at you?

When a guy really is into you, his actions will let you know.  He'll make excuses to be around you, find reasons to talk to you, and think of ways he can help you instead of only how you can help him.  He'll be considerate by putting you first before his needs (that goes for the bedroom as well.) Wait for those types of actions to tell you if a guy is really into you.  You owe it to yourself to demand that type of respect.

Warning! Some guys are real players.  They know how to put a woman first, but they will only do that so long before they lose interest.  Watch out for those.  They are very convincing and charming.

Hope this helps you,

Lanay
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