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Years ago I was attracted to this guy. He was about 10 years older than me and I thought he was only interested in me for one thing. So he chased, I avoided because I wasn't that type of girl. Plus, he was married and had a reputation. Still, I way always attracted to him but keep my distance. Now many years later, still I fantasize about him. Recently, I saw him and we hugged and he kissed me on the cheek. I melted, when he told me that he had become a minister I was floored, but attracted to him more than ever before.
I know that he divorced his wife (surprised she didn't divorce him or maybe she made him pay), he had two children outside his marriage and one being with a married woman. Now I suspect he lives with a woman, but they say they are married. Maybe, but I don't know. My question is I have always had feelings for him, always...but as I said I never allowed him to get close to me because I thought he was only after sex. However, that did not change my feelings for him. I am still in awe and the fact he has become a minister, especially with his past. Would it be wrong to write him a letter to tell him how I have felt about him all these (30) years. I ask because I just feel so strongly the need to tell him. Even if the letter was to say how much I admire his following his calling and why I distanced myself. I think if felt as if I had no interest in him, when the truth is I had too much. Should I tell him/how should I tell him? I think about this man 24/7. I just feel that I need to tell him I rejected then and how I have always felt!
No, don't write to him. You may be attracted to him, but take a look at what you have written to me. The fact that he has become a minister, doesn't obliterate his past behavior.
If he were really interested in you, he would let you know.
It's not a good idea to get hooked on unavailable men. I think you dodged a bullet long ago. In other words, you had good sense back then to avoid him. Stick with it. Nothing has changed.
All the best,
Susan Dunn
www.susandunn.cc
THE DATING COACH BLOG: http://datingcoachblog.blogspot.com
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Susan Dunn, Dating Coach
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I can answer any questions regarding attracting the man of your dreams including preparing yourself, letting it happen, The Rules that work and the rules that don't, meeting him, the first date, the dating relationship, recreating a failing relationship, how to tell if he's serious or not, how to get him to marry you not just date you, romance, everything. I coach clients how to do it step-by-step, and walk them through the process. I've talked with thousands of women ... let me help YOU.
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MA in Clinical Psychology.
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