How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams/Salvation.

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QUESTION: So are you aying that I am or not saved?
I also gto saved because I was interested in getting saved.But I didn't want to go to hell eithe rbut I didn't do it to form a relationshipw tih GOD but now I am trying to form one with Him.No one made me get saved either.I decided to but I wonder if I did that because I didn't want to go to hell.Did I get saved for the wrong reasons and am I not saved?

ANSWER: You are saved beyond a shadow of a doubt. There's no need to worry about your salvation.  This is the last question I can answer for you.

God Bless

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QUESTION: Well can you answer one last question for me?
Well I was talking to another expert and she told me what the Holy Spirit said.She said that He said that I have not accepted Him so now I am afraid,scared to death.Oh Lord,I am in trouble.I was never saved?!All I did was try!I tried!I asked GOD for a heart filled with desire for Him and I still don't know if I have it.I ask Him over and over again.It hurts to think that all of this time I was never saved.I'm crying right now,that's how much it hurt.I really wanted to be saved.And I did everything it said in the BIBLE,I did!It's not that I don't want Him in my life,I just don't know how to really love Him or have a relationship with Him and to know that He said that scares me TO DEATH.I just don't know how to have a relationship with Him or if I want one right now.I know that I need Him in my life but this makes me think that I am not saved all of this time then I can't get saved in the future.It's scary and it hurts!I did EVERYTHING it said in the BIBLE in order to be saved.I did it all!I don't know what mor eI could do.I really don't.I talk to GOD a lot and still I don't get a reply.I asked Him to show me if I was saved or not but I guess He just did and that's the answer that I wanted to hear.What if I get left behind?!I can't take it anymore,everyday,I wonder about this.Some people tell me that I am saved and others say no that I am not.I am better off dead than go to hell.I just don't know what to do anymore!I really don't.I know time is running out and I have always tried to make sure that my soul goes to the right place.Always.I can't even breathe.I am just now starting to read my BIBLE.I pray every night.I accepted Jesus Christ.I can't do this anymore.I tried to have a relationship with GOD.I don't know how to hunger after Him with my whole heart and soul because I am never sure.Never.So I have to do everything over again and it just hurts,I wanted to be saved.I really did and still do and now I have to do everything over again.I just can't live with this worry.I literally just can't breathe right now.I asked GOD for a heart filled with desire for Him but I don't know if I have it yet.I wanted to be included in God's people and now I am outside of the circle.Maybe He has just given up on me.I don't know what to think or what to do!But why is there something in the back of my head that tells me that I really didn't want Jesus as my saviour?Is that the devil telling me that? I know that Jesus is the only saviour and I was willing to give Him my life too. I also gto saved because I was interested in getting saved.But I didn't want to go to hell eithe rbut I didn't do it to form a relationshipw tih GOD but now I am trying to form one with Him.No one made me get saved either.I decided to but I wonder if I did that because I didn't want to go to hell.Did I get saved for the wrong reasons and am I not saved? I do believe in GOD and Jesus. I also believe that when I pray that GOD listens. I don't know how to have a close relationship with anything and I asked GOD to give me a heart to desire to seek Him and love Him. I want to have a heart to seek Him and love Him. But sometimes I question myself do I only want a relationship with GOD because I don't want to go to hell.Is that a bad reason? What's happening and am I not saved anymore?And sometimes I feel that I don't want to have a relationship with GOD but I asked Him for a heart filled with desire to seek Him more because I desperately want a heart like that.When I got saved,I got saved because I wanted to be saved and because I didn't want to go to hell.I really want to have a heart filled with desire to seek Him,I really do and I don't know if I have it yet.I didn't really get saved in order to have a relationship with Him,let's be honest but now I want a heart that seeks Him.I jstu want a heart to seek Him and want Him in my life.Every single time I said the Sinner's prayer,I meant it with all of my heart.I know that Jesus died for my sins and rose again from the dead and still lives today.That's what it said that I must do to be save din the BIBLE.I'm sorry,I'm jsut having a hard time dealing with this.I can't deny anything if the Holy Spirit gave you that.And that's what hurts even more,because I know that He is telling the truth and if He said that I am not saved,then I am not saved.What must I do to be saved?I tried every single thing there is to do!I just want to be saved and included in GOD's family.I don't want to go to hell and I am trying to have a relationship with GOD.I really am.I will do anything to be saved,I really would.My soul matters more to me than the earth does.I just can't take not being saved.I am seeking GOD because if I wasn't,I wouldn't be asking Him for a seeking heart.I am just so unsure right now.I'm crying because I never expected it.What does this mean?Please respond quickly!

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My one last answer is this.

Follow your own heart and use your own mind.  You can't listen to anybody concerning your own salvation because it's too important for guesswork and you'll only end up confused in the end.  You already know that I'm telling you the truth because you are confused.  If you did everything you know to do--that's it!  That's the end of it.  You must believe that God loves you no matter what.  If you don't take your stand of faith for yourself and quit listening to other people you're never going accept the fact that God already loves you as much as he's ever going to. If your soul really matters to you, you will not allow other people to tell you if you're saved or not. When you try to rely on other people to tell if you are saved, they can tell you anything which comes from their own mind--it doesn't matter if they use the Bible to proved their point or not.  It would still be their interpretation, not yours.  You can read.  You're not stupid!  If you already read the passages and did everything it told you to do--that's it!  You don't need to ask anybody for their opinion.  If some people told you join in with them set other people houses on fire would you do it? Of course, not!  If they tell you to go jump off a bridge would you do it? Of course, you wouldn't.  You don't have to follow what other people tell you, because they can only tell you WHAT THEY BELIEVE.  Now, use this day to tell God how much you love him and how much you want to know him.  In time he will reveal himself to you in a more greater way.  Stop listening to other people.

That's my final answer.

Have a wonderful day.

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L.E. Coleman

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I can answer questions regarding the dynamics of the laws of attraction regarding attracting a soul mate"

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I have worked in numerous social service and mental health agencies in the private and public sector for the past 25 years. I've worked directly with men and women under the supervision of various mental health and social services professional, i.e. psychologists, psychiatrist, nurses and addictions counselors. I've held numerous positions with the Indiana Family and Social Services in the area of public assistance and mental health. The broad training and experiences I received dealing face to face with individuals, families and their various problems has allowed me to merge the practical with the spiritual to help them come up with solutions for their specific problems. I have written books on this subject as well as books for non-custodial parents to help them deal with the dynamics of being a single parent. I am the author of "How to Avoid a Stupid Man: A Woman's Guide to Attracting Her Soul Mate which takes women on a exploration of self discovery in order that they might attract the right man.

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I am the co-founder of Crowner-Coleman Publishing, a publisher of self-help and motivation books for men and women

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I attended Ivy Tech Community College and Indiana/Purdue University at Indianapolis and I've have numerous credit hours in psychology, sociology, etc. I received Highest Honors for academinc exellence from Indiana/Purdue University at Indianapolis during the spring of 1998. I've also attended classes the School of Metaphysics.

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Highest Honors for academinc excellence in 1998 from IUPUI USA Book News Best Book 2007 Award Finalist in the self-help/motivation catagory for the audiobook The Black Man's Little Book of Success Secrets

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