Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 1/1/2009

Question
Hi,

I have found your web site really interesting about man and woman relationship. So today is my problem.

I met him in a very professional environment. That means relationship between us is a forbidden thing. I was kind of a client to him and paid him for his

services. He is divorced with 1 kid and now lives with his partner for about 4 years and  is a really powerful and rich and intelligent man, and I am married

with no kid yet. We clicked to each other right at the first time we met.

It has been already 3 years and we are still going nowhere and I do not know what to do now.

In the early days we first met, he friendly touched me a lot so finally I understood that he was interested in me. But as I am a married woman, I just tried

to ignore everything. But he knew that I really liked him.

Then the touches escalated overtime a little  beyond the friendship boundary with he also acting hot and cold to me, then one day he asked me out but in a

very casual way, so I just ignored his recommendation.

The next time we met, he was very angry to me but I tried to be warm and friendly and smiley to him as I knew I hurt him with rejection of him asking me

going out.

Then things got really good between us after that, we talked and cared to each other in a very warm and friendly and respect to each other. He completely

stopped touching me from this stage. Things progressed really good and we were really friendly to each other. I thought I would accept his invitation if he

asked me out again but I could not express that feeling easily as I am a married woman.

But then one day he intentionally teased me by using my name. I got really emotional with his teasing, so I threw out a little tantrum to him. I kind of

emotional outburst with him and by the way, asked him to do something in favour for me and of course he agreed with everything I asked for as I was really

being emotional.

But then the next time when we met again, he talked to me in a way as if he forgot everything he had promised to do for me the last time. So I had to remind

him of those things and finally, he still agreed to do those things for me but I already felt hurt with his forgotten of his promises. I thought he tried to

show me that he did not care for my needs.

But somethings happened beyond his control or my controls so he could not do the things he promised to do for me. I knew it was not his fault but could not

keep myself for resenting him not to do things for me. So the next time we met I gave him a cold face with silent treatment and he acting like nothing had

happened and even tried to show me that he did not care anything for me and I could leave his service at anytime I want.

So what should I do now? Should I leave him or should I stay with him? He ignored all my emotions as if he did not care for me anymore at all.

Thanks in advance

Anna


Answer
Hello Anna!

Move on. You've done so much damage here with all the misdirection and being obtuse that you've lost this guy.

Anna, the reality is that you're way past his time frame. If all you want is sex, then just go have sex with him. I suspect you want more and he's not going to be able to give that to you.

Best regards...

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