Expert: Azure - 12/22/2009

Question
QUESTION: i have this relationship with a man who is very shy. I know him for more than 30 yrs but we stop seeing each other for about 20 yrs because he was married and I was too. We respected each other, never said anything to each other either. Now we started this long distance relationship and is very difficult, sometimes no most of the times he makes it more difficult because of his shyness and lack of loving word for me.
I am also come with this issue of not trusting because of my past.
please help me, I really love him

ANSWER: how often do u see him?

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QUESTION: I started talking to him on September,2009, we saw each other on 11-24-2009 and had 5 days of loving,walks,conversations, where he trusted me with his failures and some of his fears.I do not know when we are going to see each other again. I have plans to see my children for the holidays,most probably after.
Today I received red roses, but in the card it was just his name , not a love you or sweetheart or anything. Sometimes he says it but not often. I do not know... I'm 55 yrs old he is 57. We are not children and i do not know anything about this dating or relationship thing.  

Answer
not sure what your question is--certainly this isn't an arrangement to have high expectations about--he's miles away, who knows if/when you'll see him again, who knows who he sees, who knows if he really cares about you..what you call "shyness" is more probably disinterest; you're 55 not 25..no time to waste on a fantasy; refocus on YOUR life, meeting/dating those NEARBY you can actually observe/do things with..