Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 12/1/2009

Question
I'm a smart and attractive woman . I have a nice personality too . Yet I never find love . I mean no guy who is smart,successful and handsome would ever ask me out . The few guys who care to ask me out are jerks and losers . I obviously turn them down. What is the problem please ?

Answer
Dear Trinity,

This is one time when I would say -- you really need dating coaching.  You have adopted an "attitude" that is not going to help you with what is challenging in the first place  

I can't tell what your problem is, from what you say.  One thing is that while I wouldn't use the term "loser," there are a lot more "losers" and "jerks" out there than "smart, successful and handsome" men," so you have to have perseverance (for which coaching is good).  You also have to be in top form yourself, and that includes an I CAN WIN attitude.  I don't mean arrogance, I mean a positive attitude.  It is not EASY to find an attract the best sort of husband-material, which is obviously what you are looking for, and it doesn't help to say you are "unlucky in love."  All of us have to kiss a lot of frogs.

Again, the best thing for you would be to have dating coaching.  You need to do a lot of work on yourself.  Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc if you are interested.  It would be a priceless investment in your future, because with the "down" attitude you have now, you are about to pull off a self-fulfilling prophecy that is going to effect the quality of your life.

All the best,
Susan Dunn, MA
The Dating Coach
www.susandunn.cc
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