Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/26/2009

Question
I have to ask.  Are you gay???  You seem to have a problem with single mothers which would mean with women in general.
Such hostility towards women tells me that you can't find the man of your dreams and probably blame women in general for existing. No need to reply. I'm a girl.

Answer
Hello!

Since you've asked this question as part of the public forum, I can either ignore it or answer it. However, how ridiculous of you to pose something SO dumb and not expect me to respond to it! I sense this is also why you're a single mother.

No, I'm not gay. You can feel free to ask any of the women I date and they'll confirm that for you, and no, that wouldn't be an excuse anyway for hostility. While I'm not gay, I don't see anything wrong with it and for you to use it as some sort of attempted slam against me simply shows how ignorant you are. Why didn't you try to claim that I was disabled or Jewish or that I work at the post office? You see, that would make just as much sense, but then, I can't expect you to understand that now, can I?

You see, the mistake you're making is thinking that I'm hostile towards women. In fact, I'm not. However that isn't to say that I respect women - I don't. I don't respect any particular group of people be it women or men or politicians or liberals or Muslims or dog owners or bankers or any other particular group.

Instead, I reserve my respect for individuals and only then based on what they do, say and think. Being part of some sub-group of people is not enough reason to offer respect.

In that light, I can tell you that I do NOT respect stupid people. Your question obviously places you firmly within that sub-group. Further, as a single mother I have to wonder many things about you:

1) What's wrong with you that you couldn't keep your kid's father around?

2) Why did you choose him to pop out a litter of puppies with?

3) Why don't you care enough about your own family to want your baby's father around any more?

You see, study after study continues to prove that children raised in single-parent households (and the VAST majority of these are single-mother run) have all sorts of social-adaptation challenges later on in life.

Dr. Phil and much of our culture aggrandizes (look it up) single mothers as some sort of heroes. In fact, they are nothing of the sort. The heroes in my book are those women that work hard on their relationships in order to build solid, loving families for their kids to grow up in. Relationships are tough. Any idiot with functioning genitalia can breed.

You're too selfish; and, dare I say, stupid, to see this or even care about your own kids. Thus, I can have no respect for you and your choices.

Thanks for the question!

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Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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