Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 2/21/2009

Question
I have an abusive roommate who is really overweight and unattractive, and bitchy. I'm very attractive. The moment I walked into the apartment and introduced myself she gave me a nasty scowl that basically said she wanted to demolish me from the face off the earth before I even opened my mouth. I was shocked but just kept a polite smile.

I constantly heard her bitching to other people on the phone about how much she hates pretty, skinny women. She can't stand them.

Whenever a guy would show interest in me (guys which I never liked back by the way) and try to kiss me, she would get really jealous. Then she would drag him into her room and talk to him.

If I spilled a little salt on the table, she would start screaming at me.

I was cooking a 3 egg omelette and she walked up behind me and said in a nasty voice "three eggs!" then she looked me up and down in a creepy way and said "well - YOU can afford it!" in a very nasty tone.

I was trying on a dress and said something about not wearing a bra under it. so she said "you don't need a bra, you don't even have any boobs"

We were all out to dinner and I told the other girls that I spent most of my semester goofing around. My bitchy roomate said "and I've spent most of my semester fighting" and looked at me through the corner of her eyes and gave me a catty look. Everyone at the dinner fell silent and stared at me.

UGGGGHHH how do I stop all these bitchy comments?

Answer
Hello!

You know, I've answered well over 26,000 of these letters from readers/viewers and in only the last 6 months have I ever received any questions about "catty fucking bitches". Now, this is about the 30th one I've received! What's happening out there? Have you women just started getting ridiculously competitive and bitchy or are others just becoming incredibly sensitive and assumptive?

Further, the "roommate" or "coworkers" are always hideously ugly and and the so-called "victim" is always gorgeous. Hmmm, I'm wondering about this pattern and the REAL truths about it all!

Well, anyway...I digress...

So, when she takes these guys you're trying to kiss into her room, what does she say to them? What do all your other friends say about her attitude when you're out together?

Something about this question just stinks to high-heaven. Is this even real or are you making all of it up? You didn't bother to give me the normal detail I'd expect to see here. Is there a reason for that? Is this situation even real at all?

I'm beginning to suspect that at least a few of you are just throwing homework problems at me.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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