Expert: Susan Dunn, Dating Coach - 3/30/2009

Question
Hi there!!!

So, i kinda have this huge crush on this guy who waits for the same bus as i am at the same bus stop. He's older than me, I'm 19 and i think he's around 28-29 years old. I know it's weird but something about him really attracts me.
I always bump into him, like 2 times in a week, and i'm always looking forward to see him!!!

Can i know how to do the first move to really get to know him more???I think it's okay to smile to him and greet him but how can i know more about him, like what time he goes to work usually and what time he finish, so i can see him more. And he stays somewhere around my house, as he stop at the same stop as me, but he had to take the alley to go back there. I know it's weird to ask him that straight away, but do you have any advice or suggestions for me to get to know him more??

Thanks a lot!!!!!!All your advice is greatly appreciated!!

Vaniessa.

Answer
Dear Vaniessa,

It's important to keep in mind that he has all the information and ways of finding out about people that you do, and that if he is interested in you, he will find out - when you go to work, where you live.  

I can't tell from this is you have interacted with him or not.  You can try moving over to stand by him and starting a light conversation.  There should be plenty to talk about right there, the bus and all that.  Ask him where he works ... that kind of thing.

Try putting your hand on his arm, or touching him LIGHTLY in some way.  You can introduce yourself, "Hi, I'm Vaniessa" and see if he replies.

But it's important to let nature take its course, and to allow him to pursue, which he will do if he is interested.  Like he could find ways to talk to you, find out where you work, etc.  You can "attract" but you can't make something happen that doesn't want to happen.  There isn't a magic formula, or I would give it to you!

All the best,
Susan Dunn
www.susandunn.cc